Help guys and girls what do you think? am i over worried i know its long please read!!!?
i never go out and meet new guys, even at school B/c its wrong if i have a bf. I dont have issues w/ my bf having friends either.he met some tutor in class, which has escalated into a social realtionship. they text each other, i asked her to stop, and she still called him.she doesnt know me, but obviously has no respecct for me. he got angry and said i shouldnt ruin his friendships at school, and that i am jealous, im 24 and know better.she sent a text that she was alone all weekend and went to the movies on Sat.,alone!who does that, she wants him to say hed go with her next time write? the point is should i be worried about him, or go and meet her by surprise at school, and really confront her, afterall, i did warn her already. I know its wrong,but i has his calls forwarded to my number, and shes calling. What do i do?
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2006-10-31 06:59:26 · 20 answers · asked by lablanca15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IT sounds like he;s playing you both. Confront her in person. find out what is going on. it probly is both of them playing with your mind. You need to have a long talk with your B.F. If he aint interested in her, then let him break it off with her. If he want, find someone else. You dont need a too-timer for a B.F.
2006-10-31 07:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... how long have you been dating this guy? If you think that it is wrong for you to have a social life because you have a boyfriend - get that out of your head now! Respect is key and it seems no-one respects anyone anymore. If this friendship of his makes you feel uncomfortable he needs to take your feelings into concideration but if you are being jealous of an innocent relationship - that is something you need to work on. You are young, got your whole life ahead of you - live it well, be happy, don't take crap from guys, don't give guys any crap , and just slow down and enjoy what life has to offer! It is hard to trust someone these days because there isn't that respect thing anymore, but if there is no trust in a relationship - there is no relationship. I hope this was helpful to you. Good luck!
2006-10-31 15:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by valentine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it's wrong for YOU to go out and meet other guys if you have a boyfriend, but it's ok for your boyfriend to? Sounds like you've got a problem there sister! And it's not with this other chick - if your relationship is secure with your man, then no other woman can tear it asunder! But if he's used to you behaving - or not behaving- a certain way, then he feels he can get away with whatever he wants. And face it - whatever is or is not going on with those two, he LOVES the attention!!! What an ego stroke for him. Time to flip the script - give him the attention he wants so he gets it FROM YOU and tell him you're uncomfortable with the way this chick talks to you (you don't trust HER see? never admit you don't trust HIM!)
If you feel you have to address this with her rather than with him, however, next time she calls answer the phone! If she asks to talk to your man, ask her what it is she needs and you'll relay that for her. If she gets pouty about it, tell her how it is: she's playing with fire and if she continues on this path, she's gonna get burned!
2006-10-31 15:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by sjrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 24, and can't use the English language any better than that? Pitiful!
Well, what have you really got here? A guy who doesn't respect you, a tutor who doesn't respect the boundaries of teacher/pupil, and you sitting home worried. Ya got nothin'!
HE should be getting angry at HER for interfering in his love-life, but apparently, he likes it.
You should NOT confront her, but your boyfriend. HE is the one with whom you have a relationship, not her. He is the one who is cheating-either emotionally or physically-
Do not have his calls forwarded, next will you be peeking in his windows? You are better than that.
Cut him loose and let him get "tutored" all he wants.
You need to have someone that you can trust and who respects you.without all the subterfuge. He's not worth getting in a fight over.
Good luck.
2006-10-31 15:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so heres what i have to say. talk to your boyfriend. say that there is a difference between a "friend at school" and a special friend. Present examples of what she's doing. All girls know the game shes playing. Make an argument he cant argue with. If your boyfriend is really meant for you he will understand. Do a whole what if you were in my shoes kinda thing. dont confront her unless it esclates into something bad, such as cheating
2006-10-31 15:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by raelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust and respect are the keys to the best relationships. It sounds as though both are missing here. You seem somewhat insecure about his feelings for you and he sounds disrespectful toward them. You needn't confront this girl, rather fill YOUR time with someone/something worthy of your efforts. Be confident with yourself and know you are worthwhile in a relationship. Let him pursue YOU! Don't give him the time of day. If he TRULY is interested, he will be there FOR YOU, with bells on! If not, he wasn't worth the time you invested in the first place. Good luck and keep your head held high!
2006-10-31 15:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Forgot How 2 Show Him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with their relationship, your boyfriend should respect that. A guy that is not single should not have really close friendships with other women, its just not right. I have always believed that guys can't be "just friends" with girls..there is ALWAYS at least a thought of something more going on. He should respect your wishes and at least tell her not to call/text. I think its fine if they talk at school, but it shouldnt go beyond that. If he doesnt respect your opinion about this, something else is wrong here and you need to decide if he really cares about you and your feelings.
2006-10-31 15:05:44 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears that she may want him more than just socially. His reaction to what you did should have been concern for your feelings about this new friend of his. Texting him indicating that she was all alone for the weekend and stressing that point says she wants him to know she wants him to go as you said. I would be very cautious of this. Why would he have his calls forwarded to your phone. Does he want you to break things off with him I wonder?
2006-10-31 15:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really if you are that worried he shouldnt be friends with her but that doesnt show that you have much faith in him. I have a lot of trust in my husband and I give him a long leash I have faith in us. Also its not like he tried to hide the conversation right!! It does sound like she is trying to get a reaction from you though, especially if she knows you dont like it and still calls/texts. Your man should see that and because he doesnt that would scare me!! Befor calling her and asking her not to call I would have tried to get to know who she is. Mabye she is really cool. Mabye she is a dog!! Your man may just be a nice guy. Okay thats enough of my rational side LOOSE THE PRICK!!!
2006-10-31 15:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really the issue is your self esteem, Your bf want to be out and about , and you want to stay home. He likes you because oviously she has tried to get him out with her and has not.
He thinks it is fun even though it is somwhat disrectful to have such a social relationship with a girl who doesnt respect his present girlfriend.
Don't go and confront her. It really is between you and your bf. Either he ask her to stop or you stop seeing him.
2006-10-31 15:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by RENO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋