how can a mother put a man ahead of her children?

Answer 1

Well I think there are several reasons, lust,lack of character, lack of responsibility, just doesn't care, or just plain stupid. My mom does this constantly, but its her lose not mine.

Answer 2

Wow.

Being a single mom, I know how lonely it can get to not have any sort of affection from another adult. Yes, my child loves me unconditionally, and I love her with all my heart, but can you imagine spending the majority of your time with your child and NEVER with the company of a man (or woman)?

I can only take so much loneliness in the love department. A mother gives 100% of herself to her children. Why can't she sometimes take 10% and give it to a man? If the children are taken care of and loved and not neglected, why wouldn't a mother deserve some sort of recognition and time for herself?

Answer 3

Because they are delusional. The best love in the world comes from your children who depend on you. A woman will put a man first if she thinks he loves her more. He can't. My sister puts her 3rd husband ahead of her children. I have 3 children and I am still married to their dad. I love my husband and my children more than anything in this world and if anything every happened to my husband I couldn't remarry because I would always put my kids ahead of everything.

Answer 4

I don't know how some women do it but they do! My opinion is that a man and a child needs different attention. Some women feel like children are extra baggage. I mean that is how they treat them. They don't show those kids any special attention, but when it comes to that man, its a different story. I despise women like that. They rather lay on their back and satisfy that man than to take their children out for a nice time. I don't know why they do it but they do it. I have seen this first hand b/c I have a sister like that and the only relationship I have with her is through her kids.

Answer 5

well i hear from my mom the order goes....children then parents...but then after they get married its parents then children. it doesnt mean you do all you can take care of the guy and forget the kids, but at the same time you have to do both. um...i think thats how she put it. love them both equally but differently. i think. :) i also agree with whoever said this...


It depends on the age of the children and the needs that need to be made.

and besides...why is it anyones business? who are you to say what she should be doing? unless shes abusing the kid its none of anyones busines...!!

Answer 6

According to the Bible a spouse is to come before the children. That of course does not mean that the children are neglected.

by your responces now I see why kids are spoiled and out of control while divorce is on the rise.

Answer 7

my children will always come before any man. I love my boyfriend but my children come 1st once i am done with the kids then it's our turn. Then you also have to get a sitter who will watch your children so you can have couple time.

Answer 8

Thats brutal.

A man and a woman should both work together to put thier children first. It's that simple.

Answer 9

I never have been able to understand that. I think it's weakness in certain women. My son comes first & foremost, then it's My husband! It's said to say but you see women do it everyday, some women have an instense fear of being alone & more than likely feel that's the only way to insure he stays... But I'm just working off my own opinions here.. so..

Answer 10

i've seen this alot and from what i have experienced it seems it just comes down to selfishness. sometimes they had children too early and later feel the need to do certain things they didn't "get out of their system"...or maybe the change of going from no responsibilities to one BIG responsibility is too much to handle. whatever the reason is...i find it sad. a child is a blessing.

Answer 11

you have to be a woman as well as a mother...it depends on the childrens age really. if they are already in school, then she should have a life already.