my guy and i were driving home from the movies on Sunday night, I let him drive my car because I dont do the e-way. anyway so his phone rings and its some girl he knows and they are making small talk about her boyfriend/baby's dad. just so happen we'd seent the chick earlier before the movies. anyway he ended the conversation. i was so heated, my heart was racing and i could feel myself getting hot. when he got off the phone i asked who she was and he said a friend ive known for a while and im like oh so you are gonna disrespect me? so i guess he felt that it wasnt that serious. anyway we pull up to his house and i was like dont park because im going home and he wanted me to stay but i said get out my car because im going home. i told him that i was leaving and to never call me again because he disrepected me. i told him that i dont hold conversations with other guys infront of you.i didnt like the fact that he talked 2 this chick while he was in my face and my car. what would you do?
2006-10-31 06:50:43 · 25 answers · asked by MiaDiva28 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he also told her that he would call her when he got home but if you expect for me to come over your place after how do you have time to call her back?
2006-10-31 07:04:22 · update #1
if he would've said "hey im with my girl i dont have time to talk" then i would have felt better but no he didnt acknowledge me.
2006-10-31 07:06:33 · update #2
i have guy friends but i do not talk to them in front of him because i know for a fact that he would be upset/angry even if the conversation was innocent.
2006-10-31 07:11:34 · update #3
Hell yah girl!! I would be fummin How dare that creep! First of all who was she second of all who tells some randome guy her personal sh*t unless there is more to it right!!!
Although, is this a new relationship and she is really just a friend cause some of my best friends are guys and I dont concider me talking to them cheating on my husband. You need to do some reserch girl!!
2006-10-31 07:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this but it may have been a little inconsiderate to talk to someone with you right there, but I don't think you should have reacted the way you did. I would call him back and tell him you were sorry for overreacting because, I assume, he didn't say any thing to her that would make you believe he wanted to be with her. If he did than, he's a loser and doesn't deserve the time of day. Good luck!
2006-10-31 14:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did overreact. You have no proof that he is cheating on you or that he has any romantic/sexual interest in this girl. He has every right to have platonic/casual female friends - are you gonna insist that he can't talk to female coworkers, a waitress, a girl cousin, etc?
You heard every word of the conversation, and nothing sexual was said. It sounds to me like you got a case of guilty conscience - if YOU don't talk with other guys in front of him, what are you saying to those other guys? If he's making dates or flirting with other girls in front of you, okay, that's rude, but he's certainly entitled to have a polite, platonic conversation with them.
You should trust your guy and be open with him. Apologize to him and explain your insecurities.
2006-10-31 14:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to break it to, but I think you horribly overreacted. From what you've described here, all he did was talk. He didn't make remarks that were inappropriate and he didn't say anything mean about you. I think you should talk to him and tell him you are sorry if you feel you overreacted. Having said that, if you don't feel comfortable with him talking to other girls in front of him, you need to make that clear to him. You can't assume he's going to know these things. If you feel bad about it, apologize. If not, then there's no issue here.
2006-10-31 14:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by j_m_mesh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, girl, I feel your pain. I much like yourself am a little jealous. But let me ask you something and you think to yourself honestly. Do you have ANY guys friends? If you do, do you ever think about cheating on your man with them? Has your man ever done anything (besides TALKING to another woman) to make you think he was cheating on you? I wouldn't say that you blew it out of proportion, but I would give him a call and let him know that your sorry, you don't like it when he talks to girls around you, you trust him to have female friends, you just don't want to hear about them or have him talking to them when you are right there. Everyone gets jealous but we all have to find ways of dealing with it with out controling the one we love or it won't last.
2006-10-31 14:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by roxie2k3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have a jealous streak....if you trust him what does it hurt? granted he should have said that he was with you and couldnt talk right then...but yes you over reacted...chill out. you should have just politely said that you didnt appreciate him talkin to another girl in front of you and that he should have just ended the conversation. if he really cares he will listen...
in the meantime...call him and apologize for over reacting and explain why it upset you so much and see what he says
2006-10-31 14:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a girl he used to be with, I would probably flip out a little, but you have to ask yourself whether or not you have trust issues, or have you caught him cheating before? Because you did kind of blow things out of proportion.
If you are allowed to have guy friends, he is allowed to have girl friends. And why bother trying to hide the fact that you have friends of the other gender by not talking to them in front of each other? Kind of makes the friendship look suspicious if you have to hide it, don't you think?
2006-10-31 14:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have overreacted. Maybe for the fact that "the chick" had seen him earlier reminded her to call him. If he could talk normally to this girl in front of you, he obviously isn' tryin to hide anything. I don't see how he disrespected you, unless he was using your cell, or he called her, but....
2006-10-31 14:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u have trust issues give him a chance to explain things u heard the conversation didnt u...sounds like u maybe need to give it another chance life is to short and precious to fight about silly things and cherish the time u have with him u never know when it could be ur last.. best wishes for u both
2006-10-31 15:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by ralf_1_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you WAY over reacted, atleast he does it in front of you and not behind your back. If he told you after he talked to her what the conversation was about, then fine, but if he didn't he wanted to keep something from you....
You need to talk to him. Good luck
2006-10-31 14:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by Girly-Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋