Should being in a relationship make you always feel like you're on pins & needles?

Question

Would you rather be in a relationship where you felt "safe" (no big risks involved) and things are quite predictable, but you didn't feel very much alive in the relationship, or, would you rather be in a relationship which was unpredictable and made you feel alive, but you feel as though you are always on pins & needles because you feel as though you like her/him more than she/he likes you, but you feel like that person is worth it.

Which would you choose?

Answer 1

No it should not but we make it so because of insecurity orrying if we r good enough orif our partne is.

Answer 2

I would choose to follow my heart and my gut. Love isn't logical. Never was; never will be. To me it sounds like neither one is the right choice. There should be a happy medium in there somewhere. Pins and needles or butterflies and fireworks? I'll take the butterflies and fireworks anytime!!

Answer 3

You can also feel safe and alive!
You don't have to take big risks to feel alive, a huge love is enough.

Answer 4

Neither. But if I planned to raise a family, my children would do better with "safe and predictable"

Answer 5

Safety. That's why I'm only interested in FwB relationships — the only real danger there is falling for the person.

Answer 6

Sounds like neither one are the right one.

Answer 7

i am in a relationship like that now, i am on the edge around him. i want to do everything right but he seems to be so calm around me. i like the thrill of it.

Answer 8

neither

Answer 9

NO WAY!