OK I have a 4 year old daughter and I am pregnant fixing to have my second child in just a few short weeks. My husband lives in GA now and I have agreed to let him see our daughter everyother weekend thanksgiving and christmas and a week for the summer and he wants two weeks in the summer. I told him that I would not agree with this do you think that the judge will make me since I have let him have her both holidays and she is only 4 years old????
2006-10-31 06:49:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
And we are also going through a divorce he has been gone since June and he left us without any reason at all..
2006-10-31 06:49:53 · update #1
He is living with his grandparents in a small house with his cousin. He has not helped in anyway with buying our daughter cloths or birthday presents. I own my house my car. He has a really bad anger problems and only wants his family to see our daughter. He has put me in the hospital from hitting me in the stomach when I was only a few months pregnant and made me bleed really bad.
2006-10-31 07:01:14 · update #2
I am divorced, my son is almost five and we have the "standard" custody arrangement in Alabama. He gets him every other holiday, and gets him for three weeks during the summer. We have worked it out between us that he never gone for more than one week at a time. It is hard to let him go but I think it is a lot better all around than letting him go for three weeks at a time. My best advice is to get an attorney and if you feel strongly about it fight for what you want. Hope this helps.
2006-10-31 06:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Summer time is usually when Parents get the most visitation time. I know you miss your daughter when she is gone, and you are probably still pissed at your husband (I would be too) but the fact is he's trying to be a good dad! Most men after a divorce aren't like that, so for your daughter's sake (and yours) let him. Besides the break might give you the time to relax that you need. I would how ever suggest that you alternate Holidays. One year he gets her for Thanksgiving, the next year for Chritsmas, but never both!
2006-10-31 14:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think that 2 weeks is very reasonable for him to ask. You did say that YOU "have agreed to let him see our daughter everyother weekend thanksgiving and christmas".
That seems like you made that choice and I see no reason why he wouldn't want 2 weeks.
I wonder why you would ever agree to Thanksgiving AND Christmas..? doesn't seem right.
2006-10-31 15:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same situation. It went to court. The Judge granted us every other Holiday. And we get him for the school year, the father gets him during the summer. Or you have the option of half the summer. They do this because of the travel and the kids. More than likely, the judge will go for this. And also because you are in different states, you will both have to share the transportation.
2006-10-31 15:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is going to depend on the lawyer you hire, the judge you get, your living situation, your ex's living situation. No one that gives you any answers on here has ESP. Noone is going to be able to give you a deffinate answer to that question. There are a lot of factors involved when it comes to divorce and custody. Get a lawyer tell him what you want. If the father is unfit he probably won't get the visitation, but he is still the father and if his situation is ok he will get his rights. He is still dad and has as much right to his daughter as you do. Get a lawyer a good lawyer.
2006-10-31 14:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by titakay2004 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have been very generous with giving him the holidays and every other weekend. Sometimes I wonder if it is worth fighting for 7days in the summer. Think of all the costs and more strain on the realtionship over 7 days. You will have the rest of the summer with her. I know it is hard when you gave so much allready.
2006-10-31 14:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by schell_75 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually when there is a distance between the parents, the holidays are split (you one year and him the other). Most courts believe that it is important for the child to spend as much time with the absent parent as possible, so summers are usually the absent parents time to be with the child, since you have her the rest of the year excluding every other year on holidays.
2006-10-31 15:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by littlemomma 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If u have a good judge that supports u then u can probable make a decision. But wait hold on remember he is a parents also and he could have the right to get time with his child.
2006-10-31 15:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by karla16jc 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is the parent just like you, both of you grow up and think of your kids for gods sake. why did you ever get knocked up again if you can't even agree on the 1st one.
god help the kids , they are in for a life of fighting and they are the ones who will pay in the long run.
get a grip. it's all about what YOU want, what about what the child wants. if the father is abusive then stop. if not and loves his child , let it be. why get a cout order, be adults and good parents and do what is fair for the kids.
2006-10-31 14:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by di05712 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to gain sole custody of your children so YOU can decide when he spends time with them.
A judge is going to see an extra week in the summer as insignificant. An extra month would maybe raise a red flag.
2006-10-31 15:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋