Please read, this is honest, from the bottom of my heart.?

Question

Ok. I'm 15.. Over the summer, I fell in love. Dont say anything like I'm too young, just please listen. Well, here , where I live summer is may to august. ( its' already snowed at my house). So about 3 months ago, I spilled my guts to this girl, whose been my good friend since we were 7. Well she said she didnt like me like that. I suffered through that for about a month. Well then she emailed me, and said she really missed our friendship. So i told her it was just hard seein her, but promised her things would be better. They got better, I thought I moved on. Well yesterday, man I had a relapse. Me and her flirted kinda, ( she's a flirt, so you cant call it that) well anyways, all those feelings came back, and here I am again, wishing she would like me. I dont know what to do. I mean I see her all the time. This weekend, were goin with our youth on a trip to charlotte. My point is, I really love her, and i cant move on. Is thereany hope for the future?? Please help????

Answer 1

i know this is going to be hard but what i think you should do is just try to keep those feelings on the down-low for now....just keep being her friend.....you are still young so the relationship has time to grow into something more.....don't pressure her and keep on telling her how much you love her or she won't feel comfortable to be anywhere near you....you have time on your side so use it and just wait......being friends with someone you end up spending the rest of your life with is better than just starting off into the relationship!!!! Be the best you that you can be and be her best friend...she will eventually open her eyes to see what she has in front of her is worth holding on to!!!!

Answer 2

Hi lover. You have some good points in your story and it is very real. However, although you say you love her, she might not see you in the same manner. So, I would suggest you place your love feelings for this girl to one corner of your heart for a while and move around this girl in a friendly manner. If you press upon her, she will get irritated and buzz you off, once and for all. So I advice you to be patient and let time make her change the way she feels about you. Obviously you have to be nice and generous with her in order to impress her. But move carefully. Otherwise you should try and consider her as a friend or a sister so that you will be able to gain her friendship but forget about intimacy. Sometimes the best of friends are just friends and not lovers. On the other hand she might love you tremendously and be afraid to be your lover, so that if things go wrong she would not lose you altogether. One day, if you happen to be alone with her in a quiet place, pick up the subject and ask her. This would probably be a valid reason. If it is the case, do not get offended but listen carefully. There might be things you may need to change in order to accomodate her friendship. Patience is the best quality in love, so auguri.

Answer 3

Oh Sweetie!
Yes you will get over this, but you will always feel something for her--always. We always remember the person we felt "love" for. Love will mean different things to you as you grow older and learn about what you want in a GF and in a relationship.
Please remember that she and you have been friends and that was and probably is part of the reason you care about her.
If she is your friend, tell her honestly that you find it difficult for her to "flirt" with you because you were honest about your new feelings with her and it makes you more uneasy. She now knows she actually has some advantage over you and as much as you may not like to hear this, some girls like to know this and may even; subconsciously play around with you because she now knows that you feel something for her.
Anyway, be strong, be honest with yourself and with her and then, try to understand that "love" is much sweeter when the person you care for returns those same feelings. If she isn't able to or ready to, then it is important for you to understand that. This is a stepping stone, you are learning what you like about a person and soon enough, some other person will interest you as well. Take it one day at a time, enjoy the time you have with her, but be careful. Find other people, friends to hang with; keep busy and soon enough you will be in a better place; with or without her.
PS. since it is snowing at your place. take up some skiing or snowboarding if you can, meet new people, friends. and at best, talk with someone you can trust to help you thru.

It is hard to move on, but standing still gets you no where.
best of luck

Answer 4

There is always hope for the future. You may have been a little young to spill your guts to her, this coming from a nineteen year old who can't tell many people anything. You should just try to be her friend and understand that she may not like you like that, but atleast she still wants to talk to you and be your friend. Its better than her calling you a creep and not wanting to see you ever again. Good luck!

Answer 5

Is she really being that great a friend if she knows you really like her and she still flirts with you, even though she wants nothing in that department?
head game! she is using you to make her feel good about herself. its a heady feeling knowing that a guy really likes you, and she is milking it for all its worth.
I would cut back on time spent with her if I were you, and try not to get caught in the flirting game. Hang out with your guy friends, and try to distract yourself from the little vixen. Do stuff that you enjoy and that you are good at.
If she doesn't want to be with you, you can't manipulate her into wanting to. You have to let go. Maybe in time her feelings will change, but at present, theres not a lot of hope.

Answer 6

Give her some time and keep letting her know how you feel. I fell in love with a friend back in high school when I was 15 in 2001. We are STILL together! gIVE IT some time and dont rush into to it. At least she knows how you feel now.

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Answer 8

sounds like it is up to her....she may not be ready for any kind of relationship u r young give it time enjoy each others company and try not to complicate it by pressuring her to return the same kind of feelings u have she just may want to be a flirt for a while till she figures out what she wants if u pressure her she may not want anything to do with u just give it time and be careful....

Answer 9

hey, here is a poem by pablo neruda:

If You Forget Me
I want you to know
one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon, at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

Love, in my opinion should be like this. it takes two to tango, n two hands to clap. it might seem impossible right now, but you will move on especially if she wasnt meant for you. Your only 15 and you gonna fall in and outa love over and over again. Love hurts, but remember this poem whenever you r burnt by it. Its going to take a long time, especially if shes ur first love, but one day u will heal ( And I promise itl be before ur 18)

Answer 10

Sure there is hope. Just be patient and be her friend (though I know its hard). She is soon to see what a great guy you are and fall in love. Stay at it. Don't be too persistent but be there for her and soon she won't be able to help but see you for who you are.