Is it worth it to keep working???

Question

I have 3 children and a boss who doesnt care that I have them. My 8 y/o daughter has to be up at 530 in the morning and has to be dropped off at school by daycare, and then goes to daycare after school until 6, where she is then picked up by a relative and kep until 7,at which time, I pick her and take her home and then feed her and her 2 brothers,age 13 & 14, who are alone after school everyday from 4-730. My husband, their father, doesn't really make a whole lot of money for us to live on alone, but my work hours are starting to affect the kids, and I'm starting to think it isn't worth it to keep working. Would it be better to quit and look for another job w/ a better schedule, or stick w/ it, while looking for new work. I'm getting so frustrated and have to talk myself into going to work everyday now, and I never had to, but the boss changed my schedule, and gave me no choice. Help!!!!!

Answer 1

If you make a decent income and do a good job you might try looking in the job market for an opportunity to do the same line of work from home for another company.... Many companies offer that option now...

Or go to your HR department and find out if there are any options to work from home....

My wife did it for several years and was very productive from home but still able to take care of all the little things you just have to be around for... the only downside was the PC was in the family room and email was up 24/7... but small sacrifice compared to all the pluses...

Answer 2

Have you thought about an at home business - there are lots of things you can do, either work with a talent you already have, or get a certification in something you enjoy, like hair dressing or massage therapy. Although it may not be too feasible to only live on one income, I bet it would work while you took a few short months to learn something new and set it up. That way you can stay home with the kids and earn extra money at your own pace. music lessons are also a good alternative if you play an instrument.

By the way, I think your boss sounds like a moron.

Good luck!

Answer 3

This is very difficult for you I know. Seeing that your hubby doesn't make enough money for everyone, I say try looking for atleast a part time job. Family is far more important than a job, but you have to survive right? How much are you paying for child care and does it balance out? Would you be better off staying at home and taking care of your kids, than to pay someone. Maybe you can talk to your husband and just get stay on a tight budget if you feel it's necessary to quit.

Answer 4

I am a single mother with 3 kids and none of them are really old enough to fully take care of themselves. You are not the only care giver in that house. You have a husband and the father to help you with things. Your husband needs to step up to the plate and share the responsibility. Your oldest kids need to be set down and told that you need help and ask them to help. You should be grateful that you have others in the house to help. If your income is the primary income you need to keep your job. Quiting your job and takeing the time to find another one is going to be an added strain on the whole family. I think the members of your family would handle helping out more than they would being without all the luxuries your paycheck brings in. Your family, the whole family need to gather together and step up to the plate and help each other out.

Answer 5

To me, family is number 1! I would be looking for a new job, immediatly and stay the duration of your notice and not a day longer! Plus, remember all day care and transportation costs will be gone if you are off work for a while. What could is a solid financial standing when your kids become to messed up to go to college anyways? Do the right thing, and be there for your family!

Answer 6

I would suggest keeping your current job while looking for another, but be careful because if your quality of work suffers because you don't really want to be there the boss may notice and "release"you before your ready. So even though it may be hard to go to work everyday still give it 100% while your there. Best wishes in your job search

Answer 7

Look for a new job. I have quit before because my boss didn't care I had kids, and made me work mostly night shifts. I don't think it's right to ask this of someone. Find a new job first then quit the old one. Think about it like this, would he fire you if you had to stay home with her because she was sick. I couldn't work for someone like that.

Answer 8

If you are working more hours than your husband then he needs to take the kids to school or pick them up. It sounds as if you have to do everything. Your husband should be helping you more. Please hold on to your job while you look for another one.
When you find another job explain that your children come first. Most employers respect that as long as you get your work done.

Answer 9

speak to a union rep/ go off sick for awhile-stress etc.
find out what you can claim if you didn't work, you cant get the time back with your children and work is not everything.
i now only work p/t children are 7 and 16 their dad has dropped his hours as well. the money can be tight sometimes but you get used to that.
dont stay working at a place you are not happy with, it has a knock on effect with your family.

Answer 10

If you can survive on one income, it will be better for the kids to have you at home. Or, if you earn more than your hubby, then let him mind the kids and you go to work. I gave up my job to rear my 5 children and never regretted it. Times might be hard but you will get enough to do you.