I've been with this man for almost 4 yrs. and I love him so, but he had more than 1 relationship with woman that cheated, lied, and even stoled from him. Even his own sister stoled everything from him. So now everytime something comes up missing he looks right at me and says "you were the only one here" I've never done those kind of things to anyone in my whole life, I was brought up from a good family and I honor those beliefs Don't lie,cheat or steal! my moto is that someone might get everthing I have or own but they will never get my diggnity from me. And this is what I teach my daughter everday! And this man knows that but he still insists that I take things or steal things from him, then he'll turn around and find it or I have to some-how prove that I didn't do it, then he just acts as if nothing happened, I've almost left him several times,but decided I love him to much! I know he loves me to but he just can't over come the fact That I don't do those things! He won't get help!
2006-10-31 06:37:27 · 11 answers · asked by sunnydays 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i been there with someone of 10 yrs. it don't get better. everytime my x could'nt find something he blame me and he would find it never saying am sorry he also acting like nothing happen. and his past am sure that did happen.my advice to u don't waste 10 yrs. like i did. also theres more then meets the eye here. it's more then a trust issue with not trusting u. stop blaming yourself for his past. trust me he not all there like i said theres more then meets the eye.
2006-10-31 06:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this guy sounds like he has lots of 'issues'. Trust is a two way street, and if he doesn't trust you by now he probably never will. It may be a tough choice, but you can accept things as they are or move on with your life with someone else. I wouldn't want to be accused so easily by someone I cared about either. You can't change another person. You can only make choices that are best for you and your daughter. Good Luck
2006-10-31 06:43:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend has had a few deficient studies ago with ladies. That's unlucky for him. It's now not going to be a laugh by no means being depended on by way of the one that claims to like you such a lot. I'm definite he'd now not adore it when you felt that manner approximately him. Perhaps through the years he's going to be taught to believe you if you do not play video games along with his middle and you are sincere. If now not...it is as much as you whether or not you'll manage the potential of now not being depended on even whilst you understand you need to be.
2016-09-01 05:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't going to change, if he accused you already. If he is going to have a future with anyone he had better trust them, or he will have no one. You can't judge people from what has happened in the past.It seems he already don't trust you, so why go through that' and put your daughter through that. Next he could start on her. Sounds like he just wants to blame someone even if he put it somewhere, and can't find it.
2006-10-31 06:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has a problem. Suggest counselling and go with him. If he's not interested, leave him. You sound like too good a person to put up with that crap! I know it's hard, but trust me, there is someone out there who will treat you better and love you just like you will love him.
Your daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you who can teach her to be the best person she can be!
2006-10-31 06:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Liora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn thats hard but your right dont leave him. I think that he does love you its just really hard for someone to change once they have been hurt especially repeatedly. I think you should be patient and keep trying to enforce on him your personality that you would never hurt him that way. I think that if he is worth it and you are willing to work on it he will eventually come around and trust you it just dont happen over night.
2006-10-31 06:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he accuses you leave him. He will come back and beg you to return. Than tell him he does not respect you or trust you and that you cant live that way.
When ask you back tell him to get couseling before you will return
If he does than it will work out. If not than your better off on your own than with someone who doesn't trust you or respect you.
2006-10-31 06:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by RENO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that if he hasn't learnt to trust you in 4 years, he never may? Maybe you need to take a break from him and decide if you can take anymore of this.
2006-10-31 06:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by siri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him this so that he can see how desparate you are. He absolutely needs help - some therapy. He treats you unfairly and he needs to stop. Good luck.
2006-10-31 06:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is accusing you of stoling from him then i wouldnt stay with him even though i loved him.
2006-10-31 06:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by debbie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋