My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 mos, and just last week he proposed to me, and now he wants me to move in with him, is it too soon or should I just go for it?
2006-10-31 06:35:49 · 31 answers · asked by jinky l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since you are asking the question, I think still too soon.
2006-10-31 06:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do YOU feel about that? Do you think you are ready for that big of a commitment OR do you feel more comfortable living in your own place until it gets closer to the wedding day? IF you all are basically living together anyway, then that's probably not much of a change, but if you haven't been spending everynight together and are still a bit concerned then don't do anything too sudden.
The fact that you weren't sure enough to already be moved in with him says a lot, otherwise this question wouldn't have been posted, right? So dont just go at his pace because he wants it and you want to please him - you have to take care of you before you can help take care of him!
Are you ready for that?
2006-10-31 14:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's quick. I would suggest not living together and a very long engagement. Marriage and/or living with someone are two very big commitments. Why not take it slow? Get to know each other. I dated my husband for a couple years and then we got engaged. I did move in with him during our nine month engagement period. That was a great experience and probably took some of the shock and awe of things you discover about your spouse after marriage. He still married me after that - can you believe it?
I know you're on fire right now but slow down a bit. Just hold on to that ring and keep your own place for awhile no matter how much time you spend together.
2006-10-31 14:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by born2run 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my girlfriend for two years. We moved in after a year and you definitely realize more about the person once you move in. 3 months might not be that long for each of you to move in together but getting engaged after 3 months might be too soon when you are spending your ENTIRE LIFE with the same person. Ask yourself, Are you sure you know all you want to after 3 months that you want to be with that person all your life? If so, have a good marriage!
2006-10-31 14:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by burtonpark7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u guys are going to get married after 3 months then moving in shouldn't be that hard. But be aware u will not have any privacy and u will both see a side of each other that u haven't seen yet. It will be hard at first but work it out. U will have to see how u guys are living 2gether if ur going to get married. Ohh and compromise with the bad habits cause both of u will start to point them out once u move in 2gether. After u get around that stuff its not bad at all. Less bill u have to pay by urself. Good Luck. And Congrats!
2006-10-31 14:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think moving in with him would be such a bad thing. Although it is a big step in your lives, it is easily rectified as long as you have a place to go back to if things don't work out. I have always heard that living with someone lets you see who they really are. It may be a good way to analyze if this is really the man for you. On the other hand, 3 months is a short amount of time to know someone, so waiting to move in could test his willingness to be committed to the relationship.
2006-10-31 14:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Donnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Treat this engagement like the beginning of something new, which it is. You should even hold off on sex until you both get married. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk free. I think that you both will be better off if you do not move in with him. 3 months??? Why do you both need to move together just because you got engaged? That's not Married!
2006-10-31 14:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not.
If you felt it was the right thing to do, you would be packing boxes and not asking a lot of strangers for advice. The simple fact that you posted this question here on Yahoo! is clear evidence that you are not really ready to move. Until you are comfortable with the idea and it feels so good you don't have to think twice, don't do it.
2006-10-31 14:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon. Wait one year, then move in with him, IF THERE IS A FORMALIZED WEDDING DATE. You haven't known him long enough to move in. He's too likely to take advantage of having a full refrigerator without paying for the groceries. You shouldn't get married until you've been together for two years. If he doesn't marry you two years from your first date, get out and start looking again.
2006-10-31 14:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont move in with a guy just because you and him became engaged. That would be the wrong thing to do. besides, I wouldnt think your parrents would like it or, a proove of it. There is plenty of time to be together. Have a little respect for yourself and all that you love. wait untill your married.Tell your boy friend that would be wrong to do that. If he doesent understand that, then you better think twice befor you too get married.He should have respect for you to.Talk about it. Talk to your familys.
2006-10-31 14:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on "Do you really love him?, How old you are (I say that because if you are young I wouldn't jump into anything to soon) and if you really do love him, my answer would be yes, always try it before you get married (living with someone that is) because sometimes just because you love someone doesn't mean you can live with them! My situation is just that. I have a house right next to my boyfriend! He even bought it for me just because we can't live together. Believe it OR Not! that is the truth. sunnydays
2006-10-31 14:43:13 · answer #11 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋