Suppose once you got married you could never get divorced, but you could have sex with anyone you wanted to, as long as your partner knew about it and had the option to watch you because he/she was there or you filmed it. Suppose that though you couldn't ever divorce, you could always separate. Would being allowed to take on multiple partners enhance the agreement? Your thoughts please.
2006-10-31 06:25:34 · 14 answers · asked by kradori_hyde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think most people who believe that marriage is a "cheat-free" agrement, they need to open their eyes up and realise the truth about today's morals and values. Those who get married today is perhaps out of organised religions' manipulation, or through fear, family and peer pressure, and my personnal favorite: they think it will prevent their partner from cheating on them.
Basically, marriage these days is often all for the wrong reasons. In my case, I would NEVER let my hubby film me, nor do I think I could be comfortable with him watching me being intimate with other people (although we' have done really crazy things before). However, the trust we share is beyond words and we do trust each other implicitly without the need of a fake marriage certificate to create a false sense of security.
I think open minded and healthy sexually people WOULD get married more IF your new conditions applied, but on the other side of the coin, most puritanical hypocrites and other jesus freaks get married for the exact OPPOSITE reasons, so your new conditions would deffinatly not fly with them at all!
Plus marriage is now an organised religious gimmick, so good luck trying to convince those preachers and manipulators of the "faith" into a more open marriage proposal!
By the way, I love you girl... I wish I could meet your "hyde" side in the flesh...
2006-10-31 07:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by ButtahChick (ButterChick) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah let's make marriage better by ripping out the intimacy!
Good idea. Can you say JEALOUSY?!? Why not also make a provision that the other lovers can live in the same house? Marriage is not an agreement, it is a commitment, and if you can't be committed to one person sexually you are in some deep dog doo doo.
2006-10-31 14:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the point of being married then? If that is what marriage was - I wouldn't want to get married. And I am currently engaged and eagerly looking forward to the day I am married to this one person that means more than the world to me.
2006-10-31 14:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People already have these kinds of arrangements, and if it works for them, that's fine. But no one set of rules will work for every marriage.
For me, if I were sleeping around, and so was my partner, and we could separate any time, I'm not sure I'd see the point to marriage.
2006-10-31 14:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ethel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What would be the point in getting married, if you were still going to "play the field"? With all of the diseases out there (some even fatal)...I would think most people would find comfort in monogamy
2006-10-31 14:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's called dating not marriage...that's why ppl date and don't get married. If you want to marry someone then you should want to only be them the rest of your life and NO ONE else. If you want to sleep with other ppl then don't get married...pretty simple.
2006-10-31 14:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by all_304 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no cause that defeats the point of being married you might as well just get a group of sex buddys to shoot movies with i want to get married to spend my life with that one person if i had to sit and watch somebody f*** my wife i would cut his junk off and stick it down his throat
2006-10-31 14:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope...I would go crazy if my man was with another person and watching it would probably be even worse. I would not marry unless I was his only one for the rest of his life!!! Open marriage would not be for me!
2006-10-31 14:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh my goodness...let me tell you i just broke off my engagement to a wonderful guy...i told him a year ago when we met that he did not want to get involved with me because i would not be faithful...he decided to get involved with me anyway...i did not cheat on him but when i got the urge to sleep with someone else i went to him and asked him could we have an open relationship and he said no that was out of the question i explained to him that i love him and no matter what he is my "main squeeze" but i still wanted to see other people.. .and he would not agree so i decided to break off the engagement before we went any further. i wish i could find someone who would agree to an open relationship...that is the best thing that could happen to a couple. so my thoughts....EVERYONE SHOULD AGREE TO OPEN RELATIONSHIPS
2006-10-31 14:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini P 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That sounds interesting to me. As long as both agreed and no body got hurt. Sign me up.
2006-10-31 14:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋