i never go out and meet new guys, even at school B/c its wrong if i have a bf. I dont have issues w/ my bf having friends either.he met some tutor in class, which has escalated into a social realtionship. they text each other, i asked her to stop, and she still called him.she doesnt know me, but obviously has no respecct for me. he got angry and said i shouldnt ruin his friendships at school, and that i am jealous, im 24 and know better.she sent a text that she was alone all weekend and went to the movies on Sat.,alone!who does that, she wants him to say hed go with her next time write? the point is should i be worried about him, or go and meet her by surprise at school, and really confront her, afterall, i did warn her already. I know its wrong,but i has his calls forwarded to my number, and shes calling. What do i do?
2006-10-31 06:20:51 · 8 answers · asked by lablanca15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like number one, a lack of communication with your boyfriend.Prolly because your ashamed about your intrusive attempts on his friendships.I think ya you have a right to be suspicious but at the same time if he is attempting to see someone else then you should be talking to him about it since that is the only shred of hope in saving your relationship if he is straying from you.And the call forwarding is not right and obsessive.Respect for your partners privacy is so important whether you are suspicious or not.Treading on his privacy is giving him more of a reason to cheat on you if he is indeed cheating.
2006-10-31 06:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by con10twithlosing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that I don't mean to sound insensative, but I have been in your place many times. At your age, the best thing to realize is that friends are apt to come and go, so to speak. You must realize that something was missing in your relationship, or he would not be interested in the other woman. It is not to say that you are not a fantastic girl, and maybe a great lover, but you cannot have the right formula for everyone. Don't take it so serious, even though it hurts like hell, I know, but just move on and don't chase him. You could very well find a guy who has a much better combination of physical and mental goodies for you. Shucks, I am 57 years old, been lovin women since I was 13, and I never fail to be amaized at what I find. You may be happy some day that he found this other person. Oh my friend is 27 years old and fantastic. More mature and sexy than most 50 year olds.
2006-10-31 06:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by compassion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and ask him whats going on. Be calm and blunt so that he knows you're not playing around. His answers should be honest and not a bunch of excuses. You shouldnt let him guilt you into worrying you about ruining his friendships. Why? Because all he is doing is the infamous "male turn-around" where he turns the situation around on you so he doesnt have to answer to his mess. He made his bed now he has to lie in it. And the other girl knows exactly what she is doing and doesnt care. Friendships dont cross that line. He's not respecting you and you need to let go of him unless you like the pain and worrying. Its up to you to give him a second chance. At least cut off your phone ties with him. Overall I say dump him, theres plenty of other fish out there even if you don't go out and meet guys.
2006-10-31 06:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sonyja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have covered all the basics responses, But do not let this supposedly innocent friendship turn you into being unsure about your decisions. She- has been informed and apparently, choose to ignore your request and RESPECT of your
relationship w/ Him. Then there is Him-If he got angry w/ you about the situation, he thinks you are trying to control him, and he likes the attention he's getting from Her. Meanwhile, go on about your biz'. This will show both you are mature, but not stupid....
If he is too busy texting Her- then ,you should be too busy for his Disrespect! What is his description of Friendship anyway?!
Lay down the law, relax, and look in other directions! Best Wishes.
2006-10-31 07:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by stryker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to meet a guy friend too, believe me it will work!
2006-10-31 06:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by plenymo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish u good luck mamita!
2006-10-31 06:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Outsider4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your man.
2006-10-31 06:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO BEAT HER DOWN, OBVIOUSLY SHE DON'T UNDERSTAND STOP SO GO FOR IT MAYBE SHE UNDERSTAND IF IT'S BEAT INTO HER BRAIN.
2006-10-31 06:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by ke ke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋