I have a adopted sister,i love her more than everything,but she is a very serious women.if someone hurt her she won't forgive that person.few days ago i just throwed some few words towards her that truly can hurt her.after i realise my mistake i ask apologise from her but she refused to forgive me.she told me to get lost from her life,i explain to her that i love her so much but she's still don't want to listen to me.i just cannot forget her.plz help me..........
2006-10-31 06:18:25 · 17 answers · asked by muksar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i've reviewed a lot of your questions and answers and it looks like you are a very confused and misguided person. You have nothing but hate towards people and I think what you sister is doing to you will only teach you a lesson to think twice before saying something nasty to people. Words hurt more than anything else. If what you said to your sister was harsh then obviously it hurt her. Try putting yourself in her shoes and then see if u'd forgive her for saying that.
2006-11-01 09:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your sister is really having a hard time dealing with things. It's not just you or what you said but there's something more behind it - a reason why she feels like she can't get past things. You need to kind of slowly back off from her for a while and give her some space, let her think about things. When you feel like she seems ready to actually be around you without feeling angry or hurt THEN take the time to say hey, I love you and I've felt horribly about what I said. I didn't mean to say it, but it was the heat of the moment and as soon as I realized what happened I've regretted it. See how she reacts and then maybe you can get her to open up to you about other things too.
2006-10-31 14:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by curiousone 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Harsh words are like nails in a piece of wood. You can pull out the nails, but the holes still remain. Think before you talk! As for her not forgiving you, poeple are like that. Nothing you do will change that. You are going to have to move on.
2006-10-31 14:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs massive counseling about why she sees things only in balck and white and cannot accept an apology. I believe she has been so abused that any abuse will have the same results with all people. Let her be. You cannot cahnge her, but send her cards, etc. If she changes her mind, she will know you are egar to have her in your life. If she is doing this to control or punish you, you MUST separate from her . Go to codependents anonymous and share your concerns.
2006-10-31 14:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How sad, I really feel for you. There's not much you can do at this point. The best thing right now is to just let things be, and hopefully time will heal all. Hang in there.
2006-11-01 06:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's a hard headed brat because she probably knows she's adopted. she's not going to forgive you if you keep asking for forgiveness. do not talk to her for a while then call her and start talking to her without asking for forgiveness. just pretend nothing happened. don't show weakness or she'll eat you up alive.
2006-10-31 14:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mt. Kilimanjaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a card and some flowers to let her know how sorry you are. If this doesn't help then maybe she just needs a little time for her hurt to go away. Good Luck!
2006-10-31 14:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would send her a i'm sorry card -- in it, tell her what you feel -- that you don't always think before you speak, and if you had, you would never had said such things to her. let her know that if someone would have ever said such things to you, you would act the same way she is acting right now...but, also tell her, that you really feel ashamed of yourself because she is your sister and you would NEVER intentionally hurt her - that sometimes our mouths works differently than our hearts and mind and just please forgive me. sisters to the end!
2006-10-31 14:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why when people get mad they still need to think before they speak, you must have said something to her that really hurt her feelings, next time watch what you say.
2006-10-31 16:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when some one is given away for adoption by the family that is suppose to love them,it can be hard for that person to feel loved by others,especially those perceived as family.They feel inside that if there mother didn't love them who can ?some times adopted people are kinder to strangers than family because family let them down at one time and trust is hard to learn.My mother was adopted and at times I felt she was more generous to strangers than to me but i understood that strangers raised her and family wasn't there,I was lucky that she kept me.
2006-10-31 18:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋