Will this pass?

Question

I am 23 and recently lost my virginity with a very special woman. Weve been together for some time now. I have had the chance in the past with other girls but none of them seemed right, but this one did.

I expected it to be nothing special the first time, and it wasnt. We've done it a few times now and I enjoy it, but I am still very nervous and worried if she shares the same pleasure I do. I still come pretty quick and want her to also. Ive even gone soft in the middle of the act, which was extrememly embarrassing.

She makes me feel very comfortable and seems to understand how I feel. I still feel uncomfortable though. I think the reason I cant do it longer and better is because Im thinking too hard on the matter and not letting myself enjoy it.

Is this something that comes with time? We are still learning each others likes and dislikes and I really want it to be better for her.

Thanks!

Answer 1

It's nice to see a real man be honest with himself and how he feels.
This is completely normal for first timers and for ones that have experience when having sex. Unfortunately...you have to let time weigh its self out. It's a good thing that your girlfriend is completely understanding of the situation. Be open to the situation with her and find out what she likes and as well as you. Be patient. Before you know it you won't be nervous and you will have complete control. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

My advice to you is too not worry about how long you last, you will build up more stamina over time. Instead you should focus on making every sexual encounter you have with her, good for her. Don't be afraid to ask her for alternative ideas for pleasing her, my guess is orally will work fine. You should show her how much you appreciate her patience with you and let her know that you are very concerned with her enjoyment, as well as your own. As far as improving stamina, I would suggest masturbating more, it will help you to learn your own body better, and what can feel good without making you climax. Also letting her be on top should help as well. If that doesn't work, try drinking a little, it will reduce your sensitivity.

Answer 3

Saving yourself is great, but you have discovered the true disadvantage of waiting. It will pass, and you are thinking about it too much. I know that doesn't help. What can help is to let her know that you feel that way, she is likely feeling things like that too. Once you have that out of the way, it should get easier. If you haven't already found this out, night time isn't the best time for sex though, because you are tired and worn out from the day. Set aside some time in the morning for sex.

Answer 4

I think it will pass. It sounds like you are with a patient and understanding girl. This helps a bunch. Just give it some time and both of you will learn each other more and more.

Answer 5

Trying not to enjoy it? THERE"S your problem. It's supposed to be sensual, sure, but it's supposed to be pleasurable, too. Such all-encompassing pleasure shared between two people is a mode of learning to trust each other.

Answer 6

Coming from a female..yea we are very understanding with this but you should ask her what pleases her and let her show you how to do it....
dont wait for her to get frustrated...we women know what pleases us...and you'll enjoy her showing you what she likes too. it will boost ur confidence cuz u know she is happy...
my fiance and i went through this too. and now its heaven!!! : )

Answer 7

It will get easier as time goes. You need to just relax and enjoy it. Whatever makes you feel good, it may also feel good for her. Just grow together on this. You can also please her first then she can please you.. That way you both get what ya'll want.. It works for me...

Answer 8

Dude I was 13 when i lost it. You just need to get laid more.