I am very pregnant, (due in two days!!) and I feel like I am fighting for space in my own bed. My boyfriend's 3 1/2 year old son has recently come to live with us, and at least two to three times a night he climbs into bed with with us. Daddy doesn't usually wake up, but it really bothers me. I try to put him back in bed, but it hasn't yet lasted thru the night. I don't feel like I am the one who should be responsible, but I am the only one who seems worried about this. I'm not looking forward to having a newborn keeping me up, and having another kid trying to hog the covers as well!! How do I get Daddy to see that this is not working? And more important, how do I get him to put the child back in bed consistently without having a big fight at three am?
2006-10-31 06:15:25 · 14 answers · asked by 2much2do 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
wake his daddy up and tell him to move him!!
2006-10-31 06:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I've seen a similar thing like this on supernanny. Their were two girls and they would tuck them into their bed and then they would get up and start playing or watch TV. The little boy could be scared of the dark. I mean there is always a reason for a child getting out of their bed after they have been to sleep. Anyway on with the story. So they told the girls to get back into their bed and to stay there and took them to their bed. Then the one girl tried it again, next time they didn't say anything but brought her to her bed again. Kept doing it until the child finally fell asleep. You'll have to break the habit of the child being in bed with you. I would talk to the dad about it. Unsually when you wake someone up they aren't in the best of moods. I just talk to him about it and let him know what has been the deal the last couple of nights and let him know that's its very uncomfortable to you because you are pegnant and in order to get a good nights sleep you'd like him to take care of (whatever his name is). If he agrees to this, which hopefully he will then walk him up. Talk to the child maybe there's a reason for the habit, make him a deal with staying in bed. Every child is different a reward may not work.
2006-10-31 14:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by alyssa_the_great21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure how to answer you...If Daddy doesn't wake up when his kid hops into bed, then how can he put him back in his own?
Maybe you could do like a rewards calendar and after so many stickers or points for staying in his bed the whole night, he'll get a treat or something.
2006-10-31 14:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by lc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick dad awake and ask him to put the 3 year old back in bed. Maybe if his sleep is getting disturbed as much as yours, he'll be more proactive about making sure the little on stays in his own bed.
When the baby comes, it will be a nightmare if you have to constantly get up to tend to the newborn, and run the toddler back to his bed. Try using a baby gate accross the toddler's doorway. Use two if he is a climber. It may help him to understand that he has to stay in his own bed.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-31 14:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daddy needs to step up and be a Father.
He needs to put your Son back to bed, and sit or
stand near the door, not talking to the child. Talking
to them really wakes them up.
Promise, you won't let the new baby sleep in your bed.
They used to say do it, but don't. It can be dangerous
to the child. The Baby needs it's own bed and space.
Your boyfriend may need to sleep with his Son for
a few days. For your safety, and you need the rest.
2006-10-31 14:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try what I did. I pushed my son right up against his dad. Then I placed pillows along side him. He wouldn't roll back over to me because it was too much work. After dad cant move he seemed more than happy to get up and put him back in bed. I then had my space and wasn't being woken up all the time. Good luck it is rough for a little while.
2006-10-31 14:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should have gotten into this relationship, get out if you can't handle this 3 year old. You will resent the child more once the baby comes. If you want this to work then you need to keep on bringing that child to bed and do it not stop if he wakes up
2006-10-31 14:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up your boyfriend and tell him to deal with it. You are 9 months pregnant and ready to pop--you shouldn't be dealing with a 3 yr. old at 3 am. Make him do it. Put him back in his bed and keep putting him back if he gets up again. Be firm and consistant or it'll never work. Good luck and congrats on the new baby :-)
2006-10-31 14:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When a child is in a new place they get scared, and need to know they are safe. One thing that has worked well for me is when you go to bed, make a bed on your floor for him, and let him stay in there for a while, just until he feels safe. If you can stand it, a night light in your room will help too.
2006-10-31 14:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move into the child's bedroom. When your boyfriend notices you gone blame the fact that you are gone to being so tired from not sleeping well because you are such a light sleeper and blah blah blah.
Eventually he'll miss you and will resolve the issue. If he doesn't, do you really want to be with someone that doesn't care about your comfort? Imagine when you need support for your baby... you think he'll help?
2006-10-31 14:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
3 yrs old are notorious for climbing in bed with the parents. Mine is 5 and does it still! There really is nothing you can do about it. Just enjoy it. soon enough, you will be wishing they climb in bed with you. They do grow so fast!
2006-10-31 14:19:37 · answer #11 · answered by billiejoe4me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋