Is Kissing a sin? State biblical or explain moral facts to agree or contest this question. serious answers pls

Question

I have a pastor friend who feels kissing is a sin, and tries as much as possible to keep away from it with his fiancee of 5 years (they are to get married next year), he feels that just as any sin is being committed, even kissing will have its judgement. do respect the fidelity/purity issue, and I even want to to start / promote that, but kissing? I believe that you can kiss and stop there and not go further than that with self discipline and an agreement on both sides. What are your opinions? I'd like some factual answers too, thanks

oh I forgot to add its beween umarried people.. not married folks. He says that it's a part of fornication and the lot, and even though he's done it, he considers it sin and had to repent and stop doing it. He says kissing takes your mind away from God and makes you think of other things, it diverts your course on his path and blocks blessings that are due to you. My boyfriend just lost his job and he considers it part of a punishment from God due to that

Answer 1

Well, by not having sexual stimulation in the pre marriage relationship, they can obviously focus on other issues before they get married with a clearer more leveled headiness. It is sometimes hard to STOP or not to let your imagination wander after a heavy session of kissing. They are obviously attracted to one another, so this is an issue that has been taken care of already. Now, they are free to move on to other issues that if left unresolved or undisclosed can lead to major problems once they are married. Remember, we as Christians do not do things like the world does things. And God honors us for keeping His precepts and laws. I do believe that kissing, per se, is not a sin. But, it can lead to sin. Remember, the Bible says that you sin not only if you have sex with a woman outside of marriage, but if you even think about it in your mind. Try heavy kissing and then refrain from your imagination running wild. It's very hard. That's why your pastor friend is being wise. Everything has a time and a place. Also, the Word says to avoid the appearance of evil. What impression would you give others if they saw you in a heavy kissing session? Do nothing that would cause your brother to stumble and fall.

Take your time and the passion after you are married will be wonderful!

Answer 2

Biblically kissing is not a sin in and of itself. It can lead to internal sins such as lust (that's probably the biggest one) It too can lead to you wanting to do other things that probably are sins. It is possible (though hard) to kiss and have it not lead to anything else.

However from experience even with all the best intentions, agreement on both sides, boundary lines being drawn, and self discipline, I have never kissed a girl without that kiss is some way or some form leading to some type of sin somewhere down the road. Its not kissing that is the problem its kissing on a regular basis that becomes a problem. And just like pringles you really don't want to stop with one they're just so good.

Because of this some abstain from kissing for a certain period of time in their relationships. Here is an applicable Scripture though.

Son 2:7 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you
by the gazelles and by the does of the field:
Do not arouse or awaken love
until it so desires.

Answer 3

Is Kissing A Sin

Answer 4

I think your premise is flawed. Yes, all people who are truly sorry have the capacity to be forgiven for their sins. But, I don't think the purpose of offering forgiveness is to give sinners an "out" from punishment. . Generally, people whose behavior is amoral would have no conscience and no desire to be forgiven or to change their behavior pattern; nor would they worry about it. This may sound contradictory: Christianity is not about deterring sin...it's about the converse - living a just, moral life which would (in a perfect world which we haven't yet achieved) eliminate the existence of sin. Deep question with no real concrete answer.

Answer 5

If you think that something might be a sin, and you do it anyway, then you have sinned since you have done something to violate your conscience (Romans 14).

It would also seem that you are to avoid anything that gets you aroused (1 Cor. 7:9, 36 &37; Philippians 4:8; Titus 1:15).

Based on Romans 14, I suppose that it would depend on how strong/weak either of you are.

Answer 6

Perhaps for him it leads to thoughts/actions that are not appropriate. If it causes him to stumble than for him it is a sin. Ephesians 5:3 gives God's standard for purity. He must feel like he cant kiss without lusting. 1 Peter 5:8 talks of self control, if kissing short circuits your better judgment, then you should abstain. I would think that a majority of people have no problem with kissing as long as it's not extended. It's a grey area and each person must be honest with themselves and decide not to do anything which could cause them or the person they are kissing to stumble.

Answer 7

Oh good heavens. He doesn't kiss his own fiancee'? What is the matter with this gentleman? Kissing is not a sin (unless it's adultery). He has absolutely no Biblical basis for this ridiculous choice that he has made. Yes, kissing can lead to sex, but it doesn't have to. If he thinks he is that weak, then he should have proposed 4 years ago and got married asap.

Answer 8

I personally as a Christian see kissing as a pure form of showing affection for the one's you love. I don't know of anything in the Bible that states it's wrong as long as you said you don't get carried away. In the Bible days it was a form of greeting a kiss on the cheek. Judas kissed Jesus before he betrayed Him so maybe this is what he's basing it on. It was mockery that Judas greet Jesus so affectionally when he intended to betray Him but it was the agreed on signal.

Answer 9

As long as you aren't kissing someone else's spouse -

kissing isn't a sin but if someone is getting bound up in legalism, I wouldn't be around that church too long... scripture promotes purity but it's not just abstaining from kissing, holding hands etc.... purity is the intent of the heart... it starts inside and works it's way outwardly.... being submitted to God, showing respect, being modest, being faithful to your loved one/spouse, being honest etc....

Answer 10

Kissing is not a sin. If that were the case our parents are sinners over and over again for kissing and cuddling us from childhood. Kissing someone as in a boyfriend / girlfriend relationship is a little different. One should not kiss someone casually unless they have profound feelings for them and in a steady relationship.