im trying to snag a guy but i dont reallly know how to get him to want to ask me out, we like eachother and all but i really want him =/ soo guys what should i do? and im an attractive girl, i just want a boyfrienddd i need some pointers =]
2006-10-31 05:59:26 · 7 answers · asked by Lindsay xo0x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i believe when the times right, you will meet your match, it will come natrually, if you try to hard then it might back fire.
here are a few tips that might also help you
Be comfy - If you are too flirty and too dressed up, a guy will be turned off. Men are naturally dominant, so when you're around someone you truly want, make them comfortable. Be casual and funny, so they feel comfy and honest with you.
Challenge him - Don't show too much skin. They will be curious to see the mystery. Don't be all over him--just a little bit. Don't give in easily.
Do not be desperate - The best things come when you least expect them. He will show up when he does. In the meantime, why not concentrate on you? Guys like brains and naturalness more than looks. As long as you have your own life, someone will be happy to join you. :-)
What not to do - Never go up to to a guy and say "Howdy do, would you be my boyfriend?" This never works. I tried it.
Capture his mind and his heart will follow - If you want to engage your crush's undivided attention, challenge him to a board game such as Trivial Pursuit. He will get all charged up in the competition, and you'll get his loudest laughter when he gets things right! When your score is a bit ahead of his, watch him become "the man" in his quest to conquer the game! Never let your score get too far ahead of his (if he seems less adept than you are), or he'll feel like quitting. A few points is fine, but don't annihilate the guy's chances. Believe me, this is symbolic of the potential in your relationship. Also, if he wins, he gets a big hug. If you win, he gets a big hug. Get it?Becoming friends - Depending on the situation, you may or may not want to become the best of friends first. Naturally, you want to spend time with him, but while you do, keep in mind that he is a romantic interest. Too many times, I have become best friends with a guy first, and when people ask "Why dont you date him?" I have to say, "Because he's just a really good friend, and I don't want to mess that up." Just remember that while you are spending time with him, you shouldn't automatically put him in the "friend pile."Smile, be friendly, don't try to be like someone else, and most of all, emphasize your full attention to him or else he won't think your interested in him.
What attracts most guys - Look him up and down, lick your lips, let him see you talking to other guys(not flirting with them but general conversation) so he thinks you're easy to talk to. Don't dress up too much or act fake. Act feminine, rub his tummy and chest and touch and play with his hair. This will attract him for sure.
Makeup - Some guys don't like makeup at all. My brother, for example. I also know this guy who doesn't like eyeliner. Some guys love it. It all depends on the guy.Play around - Mingle with him. Play with the hair on the back of his neck. If you like him, tell him right away. Don't take so long. You are wasting precious time. Also, we all know that guys don't notice details, so relax.Something magic - There isn't anything you need to do different to attract a guy. The girl that got my attention was the one who did none of the above. There's someone out there for everyone.
Pause and effect - When you see him. let him say hello and then you say hello also. Then, pause and briefly stare at his eyes then his mouth (as though you are slightly mesmerized). Smile a little smile and walk away. This will get them girls.
During school - If you like someone at your school - show them. Look them straight in the eye and listen to them when they talk to you. Sometimes, if you tell a boy you like them, they will start to act weird around you.
Surefire tip - Men like lots of stuff, women are just one of them. Try your hand at different things men in general like, even if they don't appeal to you right away. Dirt bikes are tons of fun. And football is pretty easy to follow once you learn the 32 rules. And who wouldn't want to drive a race car or 4x4? Think about it - you fixing your own car! Or remodeling your kitchen! And wouldn't it just be dandy when you teach that cutie helping you a thing or two? I did this, and enjoy putting my feminine brand of fun on male-dominated hobbies. I have a pink toolbox and love bragging that I change my own brakes. It took patience to learn, but seeing the look on any man's face is priceless. And with the diverse amount of man-hobbies out there, you surely can find one you enjoy too, without putting up a front. Try it.
Remember how unique you are - Remember how unique you are and so will he. Why are some beautiful people unattractive? It is all in the vibes they emanate.
Ladies, we have all been in that predicament of spending hours getting ready for a special occasion- but feeling unnoticed. Why? Because you got caught up in other people's perceptions which detracted from the real you shining through. Let your inner spirit shine through. Most communications is non verbal, so relax, smile and be graceful.
Keep in mind that there is only one you on this Earth. Forget emulating others. The day you remember how much you have to offer to the world, will be the day they all want to offer you something in return.You can still get a guy attracted to you without flirting, although some women just can't help it. If you must flirt, don't flirt for too long.
good luck
2006-10-31 06:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by dandyl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just drop suttle hints that you are interested in hanging out with him. You can ask him his plans for the weekend and see what he has to say. Take it from me, having an attractive girl asking you to spend time with you is always a vey good thing. When you hang out with him, pay attention to what he says instead of talking about yourself. Try to find out his interests, movies, music, and converse with him about those. Guys usually like when girls can get into things that they enjoy. Try not to act desperate ,because guys really wonder when a girl throws herself at him, how many other guys has she done this too. You can also try to make suttle but meaningful touching with him. Like when you're in the car, if he reaches for the radio volume, go for it at the same time and touch his hands and see what he does. Or if you are walking into the mall, motion your hand towrds his so he grabs it and holds your hand. These gestures should show him that you are interested beyond a friend level! Goodluck !
2006-10-31 06:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by dave s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to get to know the guy before you consider wanting him for a boyfriend. Try starting a friendly conversation with him and see where it goes.
2006-10-31 06:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by divalicious 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
GIRL WHY WOULD YOU PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE LIKE THIS????? WHEN YOU LOOK 4 A MAN U MOST LIKELY END UP WITH SOME THING U DONT WONT!!!OR DONT NEED!!!!!! MY ADVISE 2 U IS NOT 2 LOOK BUT LET MEN COME 2 U, THAT WAY WHEN U DATE U CAN PICK AND CHOSE.
2006-10-31 06:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you want to get naked and watch a movie. That tends to get my attention.
2006-10-31 06:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you front you loose mack him the next time you guys are alone and there you go
2006-10-31 06:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by west side rider 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be yourself, and don't try so hard.
2006-10-31 06:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋