so I just started talking to this girl like 3 weeks ago(I known her for about a year but I started talking to her 3 weeks ago), and I mean talk, we spend talking like 2 hours a day, the thing is that Im starting to fall for her and I don't want to because she already has a boyfriend(he's out of town), I broke up with my girlfriend a week before I met her, oh, I don't know what to do, please help me.
2006-10-31 05:53:43 · 13 answers · asked by Diaz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I already asked this question, I just need more opinions
2006-10-31 05:54:54 · update #1
If you think you can't handle the pressure of becoming close with her while she has a boyfriend, try to allow some distance between you both. Because it will eat you up inside having feelings for her and knowing she is with someone else. Good luck! I know this is so cliche but it really is true. I have been there before and can totally relate.
2006-10-31 05:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may be falling for her as a rebound. I would step back if I were you, take a long look at her and your conversations together, and then think about your ex girlfriend and see if there are any simularities between them both that would spark up an interest in this girl that you have been talking to. I would put a small distance between you and her so that you are not talking with her everyday anymore, and so that you are not feeling like a relationship wrecker because she has a boyfriend. If your feelings for her are legit and you see that they are, then its possible she feels the same for you. If she does, then she will break up with her now boyfriend and you will know exactly how she feels. But right now you need to figure out if you are really into her, or her as a rebound. Blessed be........................
2006-10-31 14:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to put some distance between yourself and her for your sake. The more time you spend with her talking or hanging out the more you are going to fall for her. It sounds like she may be interested in you though as much time as you spend with her. Is she having problems with her boyfriend? If she is then she may be just waiting for you to make a move on her. I think that you need to have a conversation with her and tell her how you feel but that you don't want to come in between her and her boyfriend if she wants to remain with him. This way the ball is in her court. If she is having problems with her boyfriend but wants to be with you she can tell you and if she wants to remain with her boyfriend then she will know why you are putting some distance between ya'll. Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-10-31 13:59:34 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with her about how you feel. Maybe she's started to have feelings for you as well. However, if she tells you that she's serious about her boyfriend, you might want to place some distance in the relationship for a little while.
2006-10-31 13:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, do you think you are falling for her like your on the rebound, because you need someone to talk to, or, because you really like her. If it's the latter of the two, you should go for it.
2006-10-31 13:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand the distance, and that she might only see you as a friend. Keep tlaking to her, because there is nothing wrong with talking. If you guys are meant to be, you are meant to be. Let your words, and understanding bring her to you- if its supposed to happen...?
2006-10-31 13:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back off and move on til she is free and available your getting into the red zone and it isnt a safe place to be
2006-10-31 13:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are using this girl as a crutch to fight off your own lonliness. It isn't fair to her or to you. Remember, she is a FRIEND, keep it that way!
2006-10-31 13:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
limit your time with her..start talking to her less and find something else to do with your time..if you really don't want to have feelings for her
2006-10-31 13:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by becca j 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're really concerned that you might compromise her relationship, stop talking to her.
2006-10-31 13:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋