People always tell me to mind my own business when it comes to these things. But I love my girlfriend, my father, and my mother very much. I'm afraid that I'll break apart the family. I feel bad that my girlfriend dumped me to pursue my father, and that my father is cheating on my mother with a woman 25 years younger than him. What should I do? I don't want to make my mother cry!
2006-10-31 05:51:02 · 15 answers · asked by Suave Latino 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well first off your ex is a h03 second your father has no respect for you or your mother by going and doing something that low i mean ewwwwww why would he want your sloppy seconds and i would tell my father to stop doing what he is doing and that he needs to tell your mother it will hurt her more if she finds out you know too so its best she find out now than later then its like 2 of the most important males in her life betrayed her
2006-10-31 05:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend and your father are really sad because I am sure your girlfriend has been a special part of your mothers life because of you and your father is her mate so any of this news will hurt her so bad BUT, you cannot let this go on because even though you love these three people it will hurt your mother more to know that you knew of this and did not inform her. She seems to be the innocent person in all this and she deserves to know that those two people that she loves and respects are wrongfully smiling in her face. I would definitely let her know what is going because either way its hurting and ruining your family. Lying only makes the truth hurt more when you keep covering it up over time. If I was your mother, I would feel betrayed by all of you because no one loves me enough to tell me the truth.
2006-10-31 06:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really in a no win situation. And I am sorry you are caught in the middle. But your mother will eventually find out, if not from you from someone else. Also if your father is cheating on her with your EX. He could and probably has or is cheating with other women. Most people who cheat don't stick to just one person. I know it is hard, but how would you feel if your mother ended up with a sexually transmitted Disease she got from your fathers cheating. HIV & AIDS being the worst of course.
Talk to your dad, tell him you know what he is doing and he needs to come clean with your Mom. If he doesn't then you may have to be the one to tell her. No matter what your Mom will end up crying. And your father is probably going to break your family apart. It is not your fault, just be there for your Mom.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-10-31 06:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you found out your mom was HIV positive because your dad cheated on her, got HIV and gave it to her? Would you wish you had of spoken up?
Bottom line is, yes, you're family is about to break apart; but that is your father's fault not yours! Yes, your mom is going to cry, she will probably be devastated, but eventually she'll get over it. And remember, most the time, the wife knows or suspects when this happening, she may be in denial or lack actual proof, but she probably has some inkling.
Good Luck!
2006-10-31 05:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's the business between your father and your mother, it's none of your business.
Though maybe you should make your father to be more truthful and your mother to be acceptive on your father's relationship with another woman.
What's left is the matter of your girlfriend, why can't both you and your father share her?
2006-10-31 07:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by E A C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! That is some soap opera ****. That sucks. Talk to your dad 1st. He should understand...as for your mom, i will pray for her and ur family. Thats a real tough situation, and im sorry you are experiencing it. Your mother would appreciate your truthfullness, but it might break ur family apart. But ur father has a problem too, and i wouldnt want my mother to feel any pain. Its not right, and she deserves the right to know where she stands. Does ur father know that you know? Thats some shady ****. You need to check ur pops
2006-10-31 06:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by She 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah so you rather disrespect her and lie about something as important as this. What if your mother does find out about your girlfriend and your dad and then finds out that even her own son was lying to her. She will be soooooo hurt. Tell her. And forget your dad and the lil tramp that he is f***ing
2006-10-31 06:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur dad is a disrespectful, mentally ill man. YOu should go to him and tell him quietly that you know what he's been up to and it has to stop immediately, that moment, or mother will be inpofrm,ed. If he resists, go to mother, and tell her in front of a therapist. tell her she does not deserve that treatment from dad, and that you think she should continue in therapy. In terms of dad, he is weak emtionally, and must not be hated, but rather pitied. He needs a ton of pro help.
2006-10-31 06:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump that cheating tramp and tell your mom to get rid of her no good cheating,sorry excuse for a husband and father.
2006-10-31 05:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by sspinnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father to knock it off. I am sure he does not want to make your mom cry either...
2006-10-31 05:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by @ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋