This person left me and my heart was broken and it took me a lot of efforts to recover. Now she came to tell me she loves me and that it was a mistake, but this is after she went out and spend time with her friends going clubbing and also doing activities with other groups of single people that get together to know each other and of course, find their match, but it seems it didn't work for her and now wants me back.
What I am trying to see if someone has been on a similar situation and if with your experience or knowledge situations like this usually work. Since I loved her so much and I still love her, we started talking and dating taking things slowly, but it is not the same as it was before, for me she is not the same person anymore, she already left me and broke my heart so badly, it's difficult. But if it worth, I will give a try, but I would like to know more about what other people have experienced, any ideas?
2006-10-31 05:50:15 · 10 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, think about it. So many questions on here get answers saying, "let her go, if she comes back..." Do you have any idea how many times that happens? Not too many. You have two ways of looking at this and a choice to make. She is trying because she is lonely and you are comfortable for her, or she eralized that she really wants to be with you. What's it going to be?
2006-10-31 06:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this may seem petty but I think you should get back with for about a month or so be totally sweet and kind, give her flowers and just be super nice. Don't tell her you love her or any other emotional stuff, just be real nice. Be a perfect gentleman, give her compliments on her clothes and her looks, but stay away from all the emotional stuff. Then after a month or so, tell her you don't want to see her any more because "she is not the same person anymore" that you don't want her after she has been out trolling for other guys (She was looking for someone better than you, but it didn't work out so she is going to settle on you!). Leave her after that and never talk to her again, you can find another girl who will appreciate who you are and not take your feelings for granted.
2006-10-31 13:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Dud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. I was the girlfriend who left him and went clubbing, etc. I partied A LOT. But I left for good reasons-- he cheated on me all the time and would lie, lie, lie to my face and hurt me over and over again.
I got bored with the party scene after about 6 months and I called him up. He took me back. Things are pretty much back to normal. In plain English, I came back because I was bored.
Let me just tell you, she left you for a reason. Whether it was your fault or her fault or both... there was something behind it. Once something is over, it should probably stay that way.
You should welcome change with open arms. It doesn't matter why things ended. The fact is, they ended and it should stay that way. Why put your heart on the line again?
He broke my heart, so I broke his back. And to this day (even after getting back together), I have no regrets and no remorse except for getting back with him.
2006-10-31 13:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nicky G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have broken up with guys before and majorly regretted it later. If you believe that her motives are true, then you should give her another chance. This could strengthen your relationship with her. It could just be that she needed to make sure you were the right one for her and now she knows you are.
2006-10-31 13:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a good person for trying to work things out with her. It's hard to get over a heartbreak. My only suggestion is do what's right for you. You have to think about yourself in this situaion because you don't want to get hurt again. If you don't think you're in a place to be with her, then you have to be honest and tell her.
2006-10-31 13:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and let her go. She gave up on you before and now that's it's hard for her to find someone else she prefers to compromise and reconsider you.
Buddy you are not a leftover food - have some pride and move on!
2006-10-31 13:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by MoooDude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the way you feel, you said its different. I don't think going back is a smart thing to do. She wanted to see if there was something better and in doing so hurt your feelings. Her Loss!!! Move forward, not backward!!
2006-10-31 13:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her then take it slowly..but chances are she only came back because she got bored..the reason why she seems like a different person is because she went out and did things that she probably didn't do with you, and she is feeling quilty about something.
2006-10-31 13:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by becca j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like this girl still has feelings for you. tell her how you feel about her wanting to get back with you after what happened. good luck with that!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 13:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its entirely up to you, if your feelings have changed maybe its better to move on
2006-10-31 13:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋