We've been going out for 3 months and everything's been going smoothly. But after one weekend when she went away on a business conference, she seemed to grow more distant from me. She hasn't been answering my calls or returning them much. One night later after the conference, she comes home late and says she wants to take a break. I don't know what to do because I'm unsure of what she was doing over the weekend or that night and she hasn't been as open with me about it as she has from when we started going out. She isn't ready to talk to me yet about why she wants to take a break and I'm just thoroughly confused. She thinks taking a break will be better for us, and has been dodging my questions about what's going on. I don't know what to do.
2006-10-31 05:46:35 · 14 answers · asked by Bob L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to get as much gone from your girlfriend as possible. She doesn't want to take a break.......she wants to BREAK UP.
Your instincts are right. Move on, wish her well, and jump back in the game with someone else.
2006-10-31 05:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that, but mainly the only reason I could think of why she might be dodging you is because she's unsure of herself in the relationship thus far. Some questions she might be pondering could range from 'Is this going how I originally wanted it,' to 'Are we exclusive' . You can only go so far in questioning her before she either decides to A) Give you an answer as to why she wants to take a break, or B) Continue to avoid you thus causing a bigger rift in your relationship. For now have a little patience with her and give her some time to collect her thoughts. I hate to point this out but she might've seen something, or done something on her trip that gave her reason to act this way all of a sudden. The best thing for you to do is try talking to her again. If your attempts to resolve the situation go on without better results I would suggest that you let her go and move on. Best of luck
2006-10-31 14:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by keysers02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have met someone else, or she is having difficulties juggling a relationship with a job. Sometimes when you are in love, it is hard to focus on work or your studies, and they suffer. Either way, the end result hits the once significant other.
Talk to her. Appeal to her sense of fairness. If she intends on dumping you, then why beat around the bush, just say it is over. If the relationship is interfering with her work, career plans, ( maybe she is up for a promotion out of state?) then she needs to tell you so you know where you stand. If it is temporary, you can work around it. Still having feelings for each other and seeing each other less, but having quality time is much better than being in the dark and wondering what you should do. I would hate to start a relationship with someone else and then have her decide that she wanted me back. If I loved her, I would probably go back, but that would not be fair to the next girl who you started the relation ship with.
2006-10-31 13:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't neccasarily think she cheated on you like everyone does. I recently told my boyfriend that I wanted to take a break because I've been unhappy with something in our relationship. So it could be that while she was gone she did some thinking and decided she needed a break. Try to talk to her without getting angry and really listen to what she has to say. Let her get it all out and ask her what you can do to make her happy again. But follow through! Don't just tell her something because you think that's what she wants to hear. Be honest, be understanding, and be a good listener. Good luck!
2006-10-31 14:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by November 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her be, my friend. Three months isn't a significant amount of time. At least she's telling you now and not after you've fallen more for her. Thing is, it doesn't really matter what she did over the weekend. "Taking a break" means she's done. Leave her be and move on. Good luck to you!
2006-10-31 13:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lorie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ready because this is gonna hurt BUT:
Your girlfriend has been letting someone tap that on these so called "CONFERENCE" trips! She needs to take a break because she needs to make space for that guy who's knocking the bottom out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Suck it up and go on! Good Luck
2006-10-31 13:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by TruDiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she cheated on you while she was away. That's the only advice I can give.....take that break like she wants. It's not like you'll ever trust her anyways.
2006-10-31 13:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the sound of this...maybe she found someone else and is confused. Just give her time and if it doesn't work out you'll have to move on...
2006-10-31 13:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by ze_eminem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break - and move on.
Why would you want to keep her - when she doesn't want to be kept!
Obviously she's found someone else....and doesn't know how to tell you....
Good Luck
2006-10-31 13:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break?
It's over. I wouldn't be surprised if she was cheating
on you. That's why she isn't talking.
Move on, breaks are for coffee.
2006-10-31 13:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋