My sons girlfriend just found out she's pregnant and stated to my son that if he doesn't get a job or find a place for them to live within the next three months she will be aborting this baby. She already has a 3 yr old boy wich by the way is suppose to have been a product of rape but she kept him anyways. This baby she's carrying now is suppose to have been made out of love. And she told me right from the first day I met her she wanted my sons baby. So can someone please tell me what I can do to save this baby or is there anything I can do???? this will be my first grandchild.
2006-10-31 05:35:47 · 30 answers · asked by baw4363 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh, what a terrible position to be in...
I'm not sure if there's much you can do legally.
Talk to her. Tell her your feelings and remind her of hers.
Offer your support as much as you can (even if it's not $$$) to help them. Or if you're REALLY upset by this, in good health and in a good financial position are you able to consider adopting the baby? (Maybe if that was an option she'd change her mind about ending the pregnancy?)
Also, I don't know much about abortions (don't really agree with them personally), but at 3 months are you supposed to still do this? I mean to know she's pregnant she's already at least 4 weeks right...
I don't think an abortion would be very pleasant for her at that point and if she's already got a baby that's (unfortunately) a product of rape then could she be bluffing to get your son on track with what she might see as his "fatherly responsibilities"?
I wish you all the best, and I sincerely hope this works out.
Take care!
2006-10-31 05:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Either help your son find a job or say goodbye to the grandbaby. Its her body and her choice and if she refuses to have it nobody can make her. No women/girl should be forced to carry a child they don't want, the stress and depression alone can do horrible damage to both the mother and fetus. It really sounds like she's scared to me, she already has one child and she knows she can't take care of a second without him working and helping out. The only thing I can think of is for you to ask her to have it and give custody to you. But then she is still going to need help with the prenatal and hospital bills, not to mention you would have to be willing to raise another child.
2006-10-31 08:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably empty threat only meant to scare your son so that he will move, she probably was very upset over your son. It's not a good tactic, but some women tend to act that way. Just talk to her, maybe you will know what her intentions are.
Whether it's true threat or not, find your son a place to live and/or a job, he going to need them to raise his own family. Just make sure that your son isn't going to be taken hostage by his couple.
It should be noted that there's no guarrante that child is your true grandchild, but I assume whoever that child is, you want to take care of it as your grandchild.
2006-10-31 08:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is! Kick your son up off his lazy behind and tell him to get to work. He can finish school at night if he has to. Tell him that it was his butt that put his nose to the grindstone. You can also let them move in with you so they have a place to stay. But I'm still saying get that boy up and at'em. She ain't no princess either. You could watch the little boy she already has so she could find a job. I wouldn't go around saying her first baby is a product of rape so why did she keep him. Why don't you ask her to her face instead of putting it up for all to see like Jerry Springer?
2006-10-31 05:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by marciacarter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help your son find a job. Frankly he is going to need to support the baby in the long run anyways. Does she herself have a job, because she herself should have one too, not just your son. If she was being true in the beginning then hopefully she would never abort the baby.
2006-10-31 05:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help your son find a job or put pressure on him to find one if he is just being lazy. Dont support him yourself so that he doesn't need a job. Help him find a place for the mother to feel safe and the child to grow up in. Provide as much emotional and practical support for the mother as you can while your son gets his act together. AND, buy your son some condoms to use until he is ready to be a father.
2006-10-31 05:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by TheProfessor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically, she in all probability have been given pregnant with out their permission, so she needs to seek for a medical care that would not require their permission. at times, even letting her mom and dad know that she's pregnant is troublesome. they might beat her and/or throw her out of the abode. Or the being pregnant could be a effect of incestual rape. Or the mum's boyfriend might have raped the female (would not TECHNICALLY qualify as incest). one in each and every of my husband's nieces had to circulate stay along with her grandparents (his mom and dad) using fact his sister KNEW that her boyfriend replaced into molesting that new child, yet she replaced into unwilling to kick the boyfriend out of the abode. If the new child had became up pregnant, she would possibly no longer have been waiting to circulate interior the process the criminal device in time to get an abortion with out her mom and dad' wisdom and doubtless permission. you apart from could ought to evaluate that throughout some religions and cultures, a woman who even acquaintances with unrelated men is considered a ****, and is in probability for "honor" killing, nevertheless i hit upon such concepts to be particularly dishonorable. it would be large if a woman's mom and dad might help her and handbook her if she famous herself pregnant. regrettably, it incredibly is not the case. And abortion is an quite time-comfortable situation...waiting even a month or 2 might substitute that first trimester being pregnant right into a 2d trimester being pregnant, the place the hazards and expenditures of an abortion are larger. Many youth don't have particularly commonplace cycles, and by capacity of the time a teenager realizes that she's previous due, she might have under a month previously she is going into the 2d trimester. She can be in denial for a month or 2 besides. A pregnant teen (or a pregnant female, for that remember) has an quite small window of time to make a determination.
2016-10-21 01:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by daw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much you can do except try and talk her out of it, be nice about it.. Your son needs to get a job especially if he has a baby on the way.. He needs to learn responibility.. Tell your son to get a job to save the baby's life... GOOD LUCK
2006-10-31 06:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first your son does need a job and a place to live if he is going to have a child. In most states the Mother has all the right til the child is born. sorry good luck
2006-10-31 05:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really there is nothing you can do, just be a stand by, ask your son to get a job, or offer to let her move in for the nine months and then be deciving and take the kid from her, how does your son feel? I mean what else is there, I know how you feel. I really don't think she needs to even have the baby she has now, she sounds like a B**** ? just my opion....
2006-10-31 05:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by beckie_12000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋