my bf wants to go to a wva party with or without me with his guy friend. hes very untrusting and has NO good judgement when hes drunk. i threatened to leave him if he goes but thats not motivating him to stay. i even told him he can go to any other party but that one. i have a horrible gut feeling about him going with or without me. what shoukld i do. i want him to not go sooo bad. help me!!!
2006-10-31 05:09:32 · 15 answers · asked by snagglepuss731 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you both have talked about this and he knows how you feel and if he's aware of how he is when he drinks, then he shouldn't go to this party. It sounds to me like you aren't important enough to him and e may just be looking for an excuse to upset you. There's no party that's worth going to if a true loved one doesn't want to you go.
2006-10-31 05:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please,If you have to go trough so much anguish,every time your man has to go somewhere,and by the way being drunk do not make him loose his judgment is him who has no judgment whet-er he is drunk or not.. the thing is you don't trust him.. and I bet his given you reasons not too... I think you should evaluate your relationship.. stop being a nagging girlfriend and make good choices for your self.. can you see your self spending your whole life or a big part of your life with some man you can't trust anywhere?? If I was you tell him if you go to this party stay there.. and chances are he will go and then you do what you have to.. leave him... you don't want to live like this.. good luck.
2006-10-31 13:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes gonna go and I'm sorry but it sounds like the guys are up to no good. Guys are jerks like that! I mean my man is the same way problem is he drinks to get drunk every day, and his friends are all dogs!! Don't think so much about what bad things he could do. Just remember no matter what he's coming home to you. Right? Yeah, I put up with a lot of bull so I roll with the punches. Girl stop stressing!!! IF hes a dog, hes gonna do his thing. You know your man and you know what he's capable of doing and you can either deal with it, maybe, kick his butt to the curb, or do your own thing!!! Like give him a taste of his own medicine! But what ever it's on you.
2006-10-31 13:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him anyway. If you're trying to monitor and control certain situations because he can't be trusted or behave at various social fuctions, that's the point? You're not his mother, and if you don't trust him, don't be with him
Today it's the WVA party, tomorrow it's a bar, next week it's a club, then it's another party-- when does it stop? Forget it.
2006-10-31 13:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know this, but I'm going to say it anyhow.
You have two problems: One is he is untrustworthy..you know it and you stay with him. He has SHOWN YOU he is untrustwortyy, then you SHOWED HIM that you would stay with him. (If he did something wrong out of the blue, had been trustworthy for years, I could understand you staying. Maybe it was a freak accident, whatever. But he walks like a duck, smells like a duck and talks like a duck. Why say "Go to this party and I expect you to act like a frog.")
Next, you dont think much of yourself. For some reason. Maybe you think you are pretty but worthless? Maybe you think you are ugly but a good person? Maybe you think you are a good catch but a bad friend? Who knows. But you think badly enough about yourself in some way...that you feel LUCKY to have this guy. Maybe he's hot. Maybe you can recall dozens of good makeups after fights, or nice things he buys you. But if you know he's a jerk, and you asked him not to do something, and he still wants to do it, then either
a) You are paranoid and need to let him be.
b) You are right to worry because he has shown his nature and you let him stay with you.
2006-10-31 13:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the more you ask him or tell him not to go the more he will want to go. If you cant trust him to be without you at a party, hes totaly not worth dating. I say leave it alone, let him go to the party, and do what he wants because he will anyway, and either see what happens (like if he cheats) or break up with him just because you cant trust him. (does he know you dont trust him alone? maybe tell him in a nice way)
2006-10-31 13:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cry!! Tell him please not to go that you have a bad gut feeling about it!! or maybe he's going to a toga party or maybe he wants to go with his guy friend because he's a ****** and he just doesn't want you to know!! haha but I would choose the first choise of what I said!!
2006-10-31 13:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by shaila b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not take the time when he is gone to an out of state party, to find another boyfriend...
2006-10-31 13:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
solution number 1: just tell him you don't want to go see, if he love you he will listen to you for once, but if let say this party is once in a life time than you just have to use solution number 2: lie, pretend to be sick, best if you can hospitalise yourself. have you party in the hospital girl....
2006-10-31 13:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shouldn't your first clue about the whole relationship be that you chose to use the term "untrusting'... if you don't trust him, let him go... and i mean not to the party but for good. good luck!!!
2006-10-31 13:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by rattagous70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋