goes down on you for the very first time and when you want to return the favor...he says no....he doesnt want me to....We have been in a relationship for 7 yrs...and me and him have never given oral sex before....he said he wanted to be the first to give me oral sex...but he doesnt want me to give it to him???.can anyone explain that?
2006-10-31 05:09:28 · 16 answers · asked by Jackeeeee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What I find most odd it that it took seven years for you and he to get around to oral sex. What was his reason for not going down on you all this time? Why did it take nearly a decade for him to decide the time was right? That's curious.
But on to your question. The only way you're going to find out for sure is to ask him. But there are a couple of reasons he might not have wanted you to do it.
There are the obvious reasons, some mentioned by other people here - he feels inadequate about his size, he might have a bad experience with receiving oral sex, or he might just be self-conscious. (Some men simply have a difficult time giving themselves over to a woman in that way because they have to relinquish control).
But there is another reason you might consider. Despite all the yak yak yak we hear about oral sex, the fact is it takes some men more time to orgasm from oral sex. The myth is that a guy can come in three seconds from oral sex, but some men find it difficult to come that way - whether from some notion that "good girls don't do that" or he's not being stimulated the way he needs it.
If you really want to do that for him, tell him so. Tell him what a turn-on it is for you to do it, or maybe suggest doing it to each other at the same time. But don't push. Gradually let him know that this is something you really want to share with him, I mean, after seven years he shouldn't be holding back from you, right?
Good luck.
2006-10-31 05:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men feel very self-conscious about their bodies. He may not want you to see it from very close up. He may feel he is not big enough to satisfy your oral needs. He may have had a very traumatic oral experience which left a scar. It could be a number of things! The only way you will get to the bottom of this is to sit down when you are not aroused and talk about this in a mature and informative manner. Let him know it is your desire to please him as much as he pleases you. Make it clear that you are not delving into his past for any other reason than to improve your relationship. Be assertive, not aggressive.
Hopefully what is bothering him is something simple and with a reasonable solution. If it is something deeper than either of you can handle, and you love him, suggest professional help.
Good luck!
2006-10-31 05:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that is a strange one. guy NOT wanting head. Have you seen him in his glory before? i mean out there for you to examine/ Maybe he is self conscious about his size. Maybe he masturbates allot. One thing for you to do is to assure him that you care about him and make him understand that you WANT to give him pleasure in that way. Turn about is fair play as I always say. Here is something you might want to do. I am assuming your both sexually active, so the next time you are combining fluids, tell him you want to play with him. If anything else, see if he will let you at least look at it closely. If he say's no, then you both have a hurdle to overcome. there is one other reason, but I only give this a 10% probability, and that is he is just shy. But I bet if you wanted to you could break the shyness. Good luck, and I hope you resolve this issue and enjoy each other in so many ways!
2006-10-31 05:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys actually find it too ticklish. That's weird but true. Or maybe he just wasn't in the mood that particular time. After 7 years you should be able to ask him his reasons.
2006-10-31 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like the idea of your lips being on his "manhood" and then kissing you? Most men LOVE oral.
2006-10-31 05:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might feel uncomfortable with that, especially if he has never had in done. You just need to reassure him that you want to do it. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 05:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
werd!! maybe he is uncomfortable with you pleasing him and not getting pleased. tell him how much it would turn you on to pleasure him. if not i am sure there are many willing men that would allow you to preform the act you long to do!
2006-10-31 05:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately a question for a guy to answer.... I can't imagine why he wouldn't want you to unless he is insecure about himself...
Have you asked him? Try that first....
2006-10-31 05:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah... he may be infected
and cares about you enough not to give it to you.
i would look into it
you dont want any accidents
2006-10-31 05:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes ( a good man ) will only want to please his woman and not have the favor returned. dont be shocked by this but just be thankful!!!
2006-10-31 05:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋