if he says:
"I didn't know that she was under age"
"She wasn't a virgin"
"It only happened once"
"She was asking for it".
He's the father of my baby,dammit
2006-10-31 05:09:26 · 19 answers · asked by Jazz 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Okay, Jazz. I've kept my mouth shut during all your other questions trying to find ways to get him off the hook, to get out of your mom's house so she won't report him, to get to Mexico with him, etc. But enough is enough.
There is nothing that he can say that will get him off the hook. Not knowing your age is not a defense. Whether or not you were a virgin at the time is not a defense. The amount of times it happened it not a defense. Your consent is not a defense, because you are below the age of consent in your state. Denying it happened at all will not work, either. Because they will do a paternity test on your child.
Stop making excuses for him. He's in his 20's and you're 16. He only wanted one thing from you, and he got it. And if he left his wife (who he loved enough to marry) in another country, how long do you think he's gonna stick around where you are? Especially when the police come looking for him. And since he's is in the country illegally, that gives him all the more reason to run.
In jail or out of jail, he is never going to be the father your child deserves. Just wash your hands of him and move on with your life. Whatever happens to him, he brought on himself. He's an adult, knew the law, and made his own decisions to break it. He is not your responsibility.
Stop worrying about him, and start concentrating on giving the best life possible to your baby. Whether that means trying to raise him/her yourself or choosing adoption, as you've been considering, is a decision that no one can make for you.
2006-10-31 06:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by RJ 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, hunny...
"I didn't know that she was under age"
-You should have asked
"She wasn't a virgin"
-She wasn't a bargain, either
"It only happened once"
-You hit the target
"She was asking for it"
-And you consented to a child
He's not off the hook. But neither are you, dear. You have a hard road up ahead, and I hope you get an opportunity to consider all your legal choices, if you do not have the support you need or opportunities to help you care for this baby while you get ahead in life. They are cute balls of fat for a couple of months, but they also scream, teeth and get diarrhea, puke all over the crib, and throw fits in the middle of the night.
Any vulnerable child alone could not handle that, keeping that baby in safety.
2006-10-31 18:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.
Most states have a minimum consent age (usually between 16-18). If you are under that age, and he is older than you (some states stipulate that there has to be 2-4 years difference between the parties), then none of the above excuses apply.
Ignorance is no excuse. Your prior sexual history is irrelevant (according to the law --- however, it is an issue morally and in matters of health and hygiene).
One violation is STILL a violation.
He isn't Santa Claus, he did not have to "answer it".
If your parent(s) or guardian choose to prosecute, he will be prosecuted. If the DA decides not to file charges, or the family requests no prosecution, they may drop the charges.
Best of luck to you. I pray that you try to be the best mother a child could ask for.
2006-10-31 13:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by tnmack 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk with a lawyer: at the very least, he will be held financially responsible for your baby. At the other end of the spectrum, he could spend time in jail and/or be labeled as a sex offender the rest of his life.
It all depends on what you're seeking: revenge, closure or support for your child, and don't let anyone try to brainwash you into believing it was "all your fault". Sounds like he was a player and a real jerk - after all, there is no female out there who was "asking for it" - no sane person asks to be abused and left with an unplanned pregnancy. Good luck!
2006-10-31 13:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no excuses that will get him out of a statutory rape charge. Also, the likelihood of him doing any jail time is close to nonexistent; worst case scenario is that he will have 5-7 years of probation. Go to the Division of Family Services and get the ball rolling for child support (Child Support Enforcement).
Good luck!
2006-10-31 13:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were under age, and he was not, his knowledge of your age is irrelevant, unless you misrepresented your age to him in order to have sex. Whether or not you were a virgin and how many times is irrelevant. Also, since you were under age, your desire to have sex is also irrelevant. His only viable defense is if you deliberately misrepresented your age so that he would have sex with you. That will, most likely, come down to a judicial decision if he claims you did and you claim you did not. Chances are, however, that the odds are stacked against him. Otherwise, anyone could have sex with a minor and make the same claims.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-31 13:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by disposable_hero_too 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Statutory Rape has no justifications.He** no kind of rape has justifications! Even if it was consensual sex he can still be charged. There was a case in my home town where she was 15 he 20 it was consensual but her parents pressed charges and there was a child involved.
2006-10-31 13:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he did not know your age is generally not a defense to statutory rape.
2006-10-31 13:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by C = JD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Off the hook as far as the law is concerned? Nope.
If you're wanting to forgive him thugh, that's a whole other story...
2006-10-31 13:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by Auddi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the age of the individuals involved.
pretty much, if you're under 18, and he's 18 or older, you own his *** if you can afford a good lawyer.
2006-10-31 13:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by hellion210 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋