Child Support?

Question

My x owed me $1795.00 in back child support. There was a period of two years where he did not pay. I was a single mom working 3 jobs, but managed to survive. Now the tables have turned I am making good money and he is not doing so well. I have recently forgiven him $1759.00 in back support and paid his light bill of $300.00. The problem is my daughter will go to college next year and I am wondering if I did the right thing because now I am not sure how I will pay for her to go to school. Any coments?

Answer 1

Have her apply for financial aid, and check into grants and loans. I think that you did the right thing. You sound like a very loving and forgiving person.

Answer 2

What's done is done. You made the decision and if he is a good person and you have a descent relationship with him than just be happy you helped him out. Everyone goes thru a rough time every once in a while. By the way $1795 in back child support is really not alot. There are some men that owe thousands and thousands. My ex owes me some back child support also but he does work hard and pays me regularly but fell on hard times a couple years ago and is paying it back little by little.

Answer 3

If you are making good money and he isn't and you already chose to forgive the outstanding amount then let it go. If he can't pay then he can't pay.

My bf's ex let him off the hook for several years because she didn't want his help and she has tons of money and is living with a millionaire and has her own bar and restaurant. Recently she changed her mind and demanded money. Now $500 comes out of his paychecks each month....and we were barely making ends meet to begin with. Meanwhile his ex is preparing to move into her and her bf's new $450 thousand house and they just got back from one of their many exotic trips. We don't get to go anywhere and rent our home and have no fun. My daughter won't be getting much of a Christmas this year and I won't be able to send her to university (she's 15).

Life isn't fair but there isn't any reason for you to make it even more unfair. Talk to your ex and see if between the two of you, you can each set some $ aside for college...one year isn't much to do this though and even if you hadn't forgiven him the $1759, it wouldn't have made much of a difference.

Answer 4

I am a single mother of 4 boys. Their father makes good money and I get none of it. I have 2 jobs, I have to keep a roof over their heads,buy them cloths and all the other things they need. He picks them up one day a week, sees them when he wants. Tells me I'm a bad mom because I'm working all the time and they are in school and daycare. He owes over $5000 in cs. I'll never see it. I wouldn't give him anything.

Answer 5

No you should have saved the $300 for your daughter and waited on the past due child support. Ask him to sign an agreement to pay the $2100 when your daughter is in school. That would be fair.

Answer 6

Well this is a tough one, Morally you did the right thing, it's obvious you still care for him so you followed your heart right? That's not so bad, however make sure he doesn't take advantage of you, because it was HIS responsibility to pay you that money for your daugther I mean 1795.00? I know people who owe 97,000.00. As far as paying for college you can save money strting now, you have time, 1800.00 isn't going to make that much of a difference. Good Luck!

Answer 7

As long as she is under 21 and in school, he has to pay. Whiel it is very nice of you to forgive him and hekp him out - you have to be careful because he will think he can walk all over you in the future. You need to protect your daughter's future - even if that means going to court to ensure that you continue to receive money from him so she can get the education she needs to succeed:)

Answer 8

you did fine, means you do have a heart, $1,795 is not that much, there are people that owe tens of thousands. Maybe your daughter can go in the air force, they will pay up to 85% of her college, and she will gain experience at same time.

Answer 9

Well if you forgave him for his bill of 1759.00 then you can not go back and ask him to pay. If he chooses to help his daughter pay for school good for him. He is the father and he should help pay. Now back to reality.......he is under no legal obligation to pay anything. Moral but not legal. This guy sounds like a real loser. I would tell your daughter to apply for student loans. It sounds like dead beat Dad is a dead end.

Answer 10

you still have entitlements since she is going to school. check you support documents, is he required to pay until 18 or 21 if in college. He may also be required to retain insurance, big svings here. You can also request to radify your agreement so he is entitled to pay part of tuition and housing. you have options beyond the $1759.00.