we do it all the time at least twice a day almost every day but I still masturbate and fantasize about other men and having threesomes with my fiancee and someone else. by the way the sex with my man is great!!!
2006-10-31 05:00:40 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wanting to have sex with other guys is perfectly fine, just remember, everything in moderation. If you love your mate then that is all that matters, just remember to respect yourself when you do whatever it is you do with whomever you do it with. Don't listen to all these people that live in fear, they're just jealous or uneducated or don't understand healthy sex drives.....they're weak. Listen to yourself, you're obviously intelligent and if you want to screw......then screw girl! He'll be fine with having a threesome, but REMEMBER, DO NOT spring it on him... discuss it over wine while you're OUT at a fine restaurant... say something like "did you know such and such from my office just had a threesome with his wife/friend?" And of course he'll respond....and you can guage it from that. A movie you may rent out is "Three To Tango" and see if you can broach the subject during the movie.....The reason you need to give him a little time is a guy that has never been with two/three chicks at once may need some time to "build" up to it....it can be scary for a guy to perform sometimes. If he is into it then rent out a movie that solely has FFM threesomes and watch them together. Good luck to you and rock that body girl! Any more thoughts? email me. be well.
2006-10-31 05:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know ...humans are never satisfied. You got a good relationship and a good sex life, which I comment would be appropriate after marriage, and now you want a threesome, Me tell you this once ou get the threesome you will look for something else.
My advice, try to be content with what you got. Swinging life style is unethical and immoral. It is not good either for your relationship or for anything else. You will start to become a slut. And I hope you don't want that.
I also think hyper sex drive usually comes from childhood molestation and sex abuse, I say it from my own experience. So you need to see a counselor and get your past issues dealt with.
I didn't judge you or anything, but I see and understand your situation. My advice again Don't go for a 3 some or anything. Be content with your man. It will be good in the end.
2006-10-31 05:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you tell us here, it is evident that
Sex is your "drug of choice".
You are to the place you want more and more...and that is the definition of "addiction".
You may be in LUST with him, but
You are NOT in love with your fiancée, or you would RESPECT him enough to remain true, even in your heart.
You do not deserve his trust, his respect, and you certainly are not being his true best-friend within your sexual compulsion. These are elements of real love, you don't have with him.
I would like to gently suggest that you find our why you are so obsessed with the sexual stimulation...it is the endorphins? Is this the only exercise you can do to feel good?
ALL exercise make you "feel good", did you realize that?
The amount of sex you want is not normal, and I would ask your doctor if he can prescribe a Rx to make you feel better so that you can be more than a sex-object.
You need the desire and time to find out WHO you are, and get to know and like yourself more. You will find, if you stay out of bed long enough, that you are good at many other things, that make you proud of yourself, and feel good about yourself as a person very much...< that is a "high" too.
Learn how to LOVE yourself first.
Be your own very best friend first.
stw
2006-10-31 05:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you have a problem... talk to your dr. about this because you might really want to consider treatment so this doesn't destroy your life! Don't cheat on your fiance...if you feel this way, call off the wedding. You shouldn't marry him if this is the case...it isn't fair to him. He is probably so excited that he found you and is about to marry you and SO in love with you, and here you are fantasizing about others and actually thinking of cheating. I'm sure he would be crushed! Please don't go thru with it!
2006-10-31 05:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him your desires, maybe he will be open enough with you and your relationship that he will bring in some help to satisfy your needs. If he is not, then you may want to buy one of the f**king machines, it will help you reach your goal of more intense sex and also keep you faithful to your fiancee.
2006-10-31 05:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... i think it's not normal, girl... but anyway you're still young and we can't deny that sex is the second most important thing in our each life, cos you almost tried it, so go for it. But be sure no regrets, use condom always for some stranger guys and don't get preggy at early age or else your life starts like hell if you're unprepared. Enjoy sex wisely...
2006-10-31 05:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Manuel Araya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that he just gets turned on by watching other peoples pleasure. Seeing some one have an orgasm can really turn somone on, if it doesnt for you and you dont want him to do this AS MUCH (if he really likes it hell still do it but you might be ableto get him to cut down) then i suggest you think os something he likes watching. If he likes to watch them dance, then try to dance for him or get really rough. Next time pretend your into the porn and really watch him to see what he likes best and do it. Then hell propbably do it less because you know what to do and how to do it that he doesnt care about porn, he just wants you...
2016-05-22 17:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there darling. Enjoy each other,.... but don't stray from your home pasture.....
The masturbation may be making you think that some other guys can fulfil you better.... give up the "toys" and props used, and stick with a human being.........
It's ok to fantasize,..... share your fantasies with him and act out his and yours together.
2006-10-31 05:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you discuss these things with your fiance...you do sound like a sex addict you should consider getting some counseling.....whatever you do don't cheat on your fiance. Try to be as open as you can be....and get some help.
2006-10-31 05:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Boo Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not put the guy in the "fiancee" category if I were you....marriage is a commitment you do not seem to be ready for..
2006-10-31 05:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋