I just started going out with my ex-roomate. How we met is very complicated, but we have known each other for almost a year now and we just started to date two months ago. I know my heart belongs to him and no one else will ever love me like he does. Lately I have been going to his house and we make out and he starts to take off my clothes and we end up in his bed, but we haven't had sex yet. Is this wrong? I know when I finnaly decide that I am ready that he will be my first, but will he grow tired of waiting for me to make up my mind?
2006-10-31 04:56:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 19 years old
2006-10-31 05:00:03 · update #1
I don't believe it is wrong but I think it all depends on who you ask. And if he does grow tired then he is not worth it. When you are with some one who cherishes you completely as a person he will honor your morals and values, if those are to wait until marriage then he will wait... if he is truly in love with you. Don't give into any man by going against what you believe and how you feel. But if you really want him to be your first and you don't want to wait then really, go for it. You don't sound like the type of person who takes this thing lightly which is a good thing. Just be true to yourself and you intern will be happy.
2006-10-31 05:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Me, again 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then it is. If you believe in God, then you are commiting a sin. You should wait until you are married. If you don't make sure you use lots of protection. No love without a glove. He better not grow tired of waiting for you. If he does, then he isn't the right one. What you are feeling now is lust. Love is when you wake up in the morning with bad breath and gross hair and grumpy attitude, you pass gas, scratch your behind and he gives you a kiss and says you are beautiful. That is love.
Have a lovely day
2006-10-31 05:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are no sins because there is no god. When the majority of americans start realizing they've been lied to their whole lives about some cat floating around in the sky and allow themselves to be free of fear then we won't have to answer questions like these. Of course it is okay to fool around, screw, have anal sex or whatever the hell you wish to do ..... just remember, the real "sin" is called abuse.... everything in moderation and that's all you need to live by. Respect yourself, respect your lover and be honest with whom you wish to be and everything will work out for you in every way. Start doing research about what other religions believe and gain some perspective on what you believe....personally I don't believe in a god after all my research and education, but then again, I have no idea what exists.....and remember, NO ONE else does either. Stop living by the guidelines that other people have set for you and start living by your own rules without hurting anyone and always giving back and you'll have a most resourceful life indeed. be well.
2006-10-31 05:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
the sin lies in the wasting of seed, which the lord gave us to fill the earth. I do not subscribe to this but 15 years as an a student in parochial school give me this reasoning. if you merely use foreplay as a fun tease, without the male release, then it isn't a sin. if the male experiences release it is a sin. its venal on his part, and after the first occurence its cardinal on the part of the female.
2006-10-31 05:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Myrrhder 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just incase you didnt know, foreplay is considered sex and sex before marriage is a sin. So yea it is a sin whether you are a virgin are not.
2006-10-31 04:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You haven't mentioned your age. I would assume that you are equating "wrong" to a moral "right". If you have second thoughts about the morality of your actions, then perhaps you should stop playing with fire until you know that you're in a committed relationship.
2006-10-31 04:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah , it is a sin . it is ur ignorance that he loves u , neither u r loving him . it is just craze for sex. in today's world no body is sinceare with anybody. people claim for high love but except sex & vested interests nothing is there is nothing. so, don,t go for foreplay. plz. get married & enjoy sex only with your husband. it will be real satisfaction.
2006-10-31 05:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by sheema3 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your heart may belong to him,.... but it doesn't sound like he's asked for your heart, only a small portion of your body.
Wake up and smell the coffee peaches, but wake up alone in your own bed.
2006-10-31 05:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by bc_is_the_place_to_be 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry but yes that is a sin for the simple fact he's not your husband. but if you know in your heart that this is right and your willing to take that big step then follow your heart not your flesh.
2006-10-31 05:00:16 · answer #9 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure he is okay with what your offering. You could always volunteer to help him out of his condition with your hands, it would help him release some of his tension and also give you some insight to what pleases him. Good luck, and I applaud you for your wiliness to stay a virgin.
2006-10-31 05:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋