My girlfriend(I use the term very loosely here) and we have been together for a very short time. Its been kind of a whirlwind romance unfortunately plagued by great distance. She recently told me that she would be understanding of my "needs" due to the distance between us. What exactly does that sound like to you? Is that understanding or a lack of interest in commitment? (feel free to be descriptive because I am very confused at this point)
2006-10-31 04:48:40 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in long distance relationship for over a year now....so understand ur question and concerns perfectly.....if u can in fact believe her in saying that she "understands" your needs by all means hang in there......I told my partner that should he have sex with someone else (before meeting me) that I would try to understand....but I also told him that I would be very hurt if he did....to the best of my knowledge he has not..(and I believe him...because he truly loves me and the guilt would be too much for him not to tell me)...best of luck in ur relationship.......
2006-10-31 05:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My first impression is that she sounds like she would understand if you go out with other girls. She probably means your emotional and physical needs. Honestly, I don't think she's really that interested if she says she would be understanding. I mean, what kind of girl wouldn't feel jealous if her guy goes out with other girls? Secondly, long distance relationships don't work. Don't ever think that there's an exception. I've been there and done that for 4 years, and when it ended my whole world just shattered. It took me 2 years + a new bf to get over it. But unfortunately scars never heal. They could fade, but they won't disappear entirely. Set yourself free while you're still ahead. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-31 04:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Angelheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dig around for a little more info. It might mean that she'd be ok with you watching porn and 'self-handling' your business, and it could mean she'd be willing to have phone sex? If she's implying that she'd understand if you felt the need to relieve those 'needs' with another female, then I'll go ahead and state the obvious: She's not looking for anything long term or serious.
On the other hand, please remember that she's a woman, and we females sometimes tend to redefine the terms 'coy', 'test', or 'game'. There is a very high possibility that she just threw that out there to 'test' you and see how you'd run with it. Actually, I'm willing to bet that that's it... and if you're thinking to yourself that she's "not the 'game-playing' type", um, all women do that at some point or the other.
2006-10-31 04:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by monie0078 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of the distance she is understanding if you should need someone closer for sex. Probably the same for her. Doesn't sound lack she has any interest in commitment. That is just my opinion.
2006-10-31 04:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that she would understand if you were to have sex with another women.
Dont fall for this trap!!!! Only two reasons I see for this -
1. She is testing your loyalty or;
2. She is wanting to have sex with someone herself and therefore justifying the fact before it happens.
You should either convince her you are going to wait for her or move on and begin the relationship at another time in the future which is more convienent to you both - half way realtionships at a distance never work.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-31 04:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this doesn't know how to communicate does she. I can only assume she meant that she'd understand if you want to date other people since the 2 of you are so far apart. I'd talk to her about it before you did anything though. Ask her if that's what she meant. And to be honest it could be said out of understanding OR lack of interest.
2006-10-31 04:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by Angela G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me she is telling you that if you need to sleep with other women go right ahead. She either said that because A) she plans on doing the same, B) she is totally pathetic and doesn't want to loose you because of that.
2006-10-31 04:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like she really would understand if you had to satisfy your needs with someone else rather than her because of the distance between the 2 of you, she really cant satisfy you as much as you or she would like.
2006-10-31 04:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's saying due to the distance the two of you have she would find a way to understand it if you "cheated" on her, she's afraid of not being able to be there and take care of your needs.
2006-10-31 04:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seldom do long-distance romances work, unless one party is fortunate enough to have funds available for frequent travel, and even then it's risky! She is probably living in reality, and knows that this 'relationship' will doubtfully last, and is trying to nudge you into that thinking, as well.....but I could be wrong.....
2006-10-31 04:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by ladyw900ldriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋