I am married & have 3 boys. A 13, 11,& 6 year old. We have no family close by. My husbands freind brings his 5 year old play 6yr old son, while my hus(Rob). and Jeff hang out. Anyhow. Jeff said it would be ok if my son (Robert) could stay the night with Jaden the following Saturday. My son was thrilled. It was his 1st time ever staying the night with a freind. A week passes he spends the night, 7 had a great time. Jeff told Rob that he thought he heard Robert say something inapropriat.. He heard Robert Say to Jaden( his son) "Aww don't stick your weiner in my mouth" Of course he stopped him. But when I ask him about it he admitted it. I ask where he seen or heard it he said he had a dream about a girl at school and a bunch of other girls all stuck there weiners in this boys mouth at the same time. He swears he never seen or heard it ever, except the dream. He says he's been thinking about it alot. He knows now its wrong. I can't honestly understand why the dream. HELP!!
2006-10-31 04:45:32 · 20 answers · asked by Ruthie38 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have 17,14,and 11 yr. old sons. They have never spent the night anywhere than their own beds. In today's society it is too difficult to determine who may or may not think and act inappropriately toward our children. It isn't uncommon for children to expose other children to sexual acts. Especially since kids have a natural curiosity. We can't control what goes on in other people's homes but we can protect our children by keeping them close by. Especially at age 6. Dreams are often the minds way of working out dilemnas and issues. The subconscious can often act out in this venue.
It is possible that your son didn't do this but he was definitely exposed either thru conversation, video, or suggestion.
It is too late to take it back so your recourse is to explain to him that what he is thinking of is not for children and that some adults do engage in but you don't know who because that is something personal and not for you and or him. He may be feeling guilty for feeling titillated by the concept and thus his mind is fixated on it. That is way too much info for a child of his age to assimilate. It speaks volumes that he trusts his mommy enough to tell her something so personal and embarassing for him.
Discuss it as you did and drop it. Don't keep it alive. Don't let him be alone with that other child anymore unless you are there to supervise. Also, kids pick up stuff at school. It is important you keep your son informed with age appropriate info. Don't turn sex into a dirty thing that he must be ashamed of. Neither give him all the details at age 6.
2006-10-31 04:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dream Oral Sex
2016-12-18 08:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 6 year old daughter is as pure as Im raising her.She never knew nothing about anything sexual , until a little boy in her her class room added a little detail to her drawing of two little girls,a sun, a tree,and a couple of flowers.The little boy went and drew weiners hanging from the little girls in the drawings,and boobs too. Young children don't learn or imagine this volgar stuff on their own ,they learn it from older children.As long as we are correcting the wrong,I don't think we'll have a problem with them doing anything of the source in the near future.
2006-10-31 05:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would consider talking to a doctor about this dream I don't think kids should know of such things unless of course he came in contact with a child who's being sexually abused... I tell you this because my step daughter has being sexually abused and she has told my boys 9 and 7 things they never heard before.. the child's behavior will rub on the other children..so it could have being that your little boy heard of this from a child who's being abused and then he had the dream... If he continues to dream about this thing,then you should definitely consult a child mental doctor... good luck.
2006-10-31 05:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say your son says that in his dream this girl and a bunch of other girls stick their wieners in this boy's mouth at the same time? Honey, he's talking about hot dogs! (Girls don't have 'wieners'.) Your husband and his friend jumped wrong to the wrong conclusion! You should just tell him it wasn't a nice thing to say and you didn't want to hear of him saying it again and let it go. By making a big deal out of it you may be opening a big can of worms (no pun intended).
He may have heard his older brothers say something about their 'wieners' and sticking it in someone and that's why he dreamed of it to begin with...I'd have a serious talk with your older boys if I were you!
2006-10-31 05:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, now he has seen or heard something about that. 6-year olds just don't dream up something like that unless someone has either gave them that thought or they have seen something to that effect. We have all been kids and I can safely say I have never dreamed about sex or anything sexual until I, I heard about it or saw something that made me curious. I don't remember when I first thought or dreamed about much in my childhood but anything sexual had to come to me by sight or sound. So your son as seen or heard something that has caused him to think about oral sex. I don't think its a bad thing, I just would not let it go, I would talk more about it and let him know the real deal since he is smart enough to understand that its something he is interested in and wants to dream about.
2006-10-31 04:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes uncomfortable doing it theres not a lot you can do but its unfair of him to expect oral all the time and not give anything back. do it in other positions so he cant feel the baby, and tell him it works both ways and you wont keep giving him oral unless he makes an effort too.
2016-03-17 06:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No six year old would know anything like that without someone telling him or worse yet showing him. You better find out as quick as you can who would be putting that garbage in a little boys head. That is just out and out wrong to put a little kid through.
2006-10-31 12:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The dream is coming from exposure...he heard or saw something that he isn't telling you about. He may not tell you...I suggest that you get someone to chat with him, a child psychologist perhaps. Young kids just don't dream that kind of stuff up....it has to come from somewhere.
2006-10-31 05:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Loli M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kids will know about things at a young age because at school the other kids some older and some the same age know a lot about it
2006-10-31 04:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Davina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋