i have a ten month old brother and he is my world i pretty much raised him my mom was gone all the time he acts like im his mom when i leave to school they say he calls my name all day. everyhere i go everyone thinks hes mine and i dont correct them is that bad? Everything i do revolves around him im only 16 and everyone calls me a teenage mom hes might as well be mine is this a bad thing?
2006-10-31 04:39:40 · 17 answers · asked by lost_in_love_still 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are the best big sister on the planet. You have stepped in to make his life better. For all practical purposes, you are his mom. Congratulations on your maturity, your love, your compassion, and your dedication.
2006-10-31 04:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
"Everything i do revolves around him im only 16"
I commend you for taking the responsibility of your family but you need to live your life as well. You need to do things that do not revolve around him and live your own life experiences. If you continue down this path you might as well be a teenage mom. I was a Father at 19 and I love my daughter but that was my choice and not a choice forced on me by someone who didn't want to take responsiblity for their own children. Love your Brother and take care of him but live your own life as well.
2006-10-31 12:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Italian Mule 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should claim him as your son, but I do think that it's a good thing you love him so much and are willing to be a mother figure to him because at 16 there are a whole lot of things you could be getting into, but you take care of your brother like he is your own and for that I say "Bravo"! because at that age it is important for him to know that he is loved and that he is important and if your mother is too busy to provide that you it and trust me you will be blessed! Continue doing what you do.
2006-10-31 12:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time has passed for correction! If you wana correct you shud have corrected in the beginning. However its also very charming that younger brother is like a son and elder sister is like a mom.
2006-10-31 12:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww...thats great that you love and take care of your little brother. Yes you should correct him he needs to know that your his big sister not his mother. Your mom needs to step in and do her job instead of having you do her job for her. Screw other people calling you a teenage mom they dont know your situation.
2006-10-31 12:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bad thing. It a sad thing as far as your mom is concerned. You are the only thing your brother has. So if you are filling the spot that he needs, its not your fault. If you stop being who you are, who will fill the void in your brother's life?
2006-10-31 12:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by purplesax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to do the same for my brother. Before I left for baltimore, I had been taking care of my brother since I was 8 yrs old and he is two years younger than me. My mom was a druggy, so I had to cook clean and use her money for groceries.
As I got older around 16, I started to really resent my mom and I never had a life of my own and I really got tired of that. So, me and my mom really started to get on bad terms because of the fact I never considered her my mother. She was never there, I practically raised myself, and luckily, I turned out to be a damn good woman. The thing is now, my brother is now with his dad and I am living with my bf in Baltimore and my brother wants me to call him, but he never started trying to contact me until my mom found out I got a new apt. My mom sure enough let him know that, and of course my brother wants to live with me and my bf now. I already know it because he mentioned it when I was living with my bfs mom and him.
Now that I am free from my family, I really dont feel like dealing with my brother or my mother...I only stay in contact with my gmoms because she always wanted to take care of me and was always there for me. But my brother always considered me his best friend and mother, but i just dont wanna be bothered with anyone in my family. He is really really really attached to me and its not annoying, but again it is. I am about to turn 20 and he will be 18 and he still wants me to always be around him and take care of him.
Its not good always taking care of your brother, becuz eventually you are gonna wanna have your own life, and he wont like that.
Now, someone let me know what to do...
2006-10-31 12:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have love and caring for your little brother is great. There is nothing wrong with being willing to be there for him. he obviously needs you. And you dont have to explain to everyone that he is not your son but your brother. It doesnt matter.
2006-10-31 12:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, he is not yours. But it is good that you are there for him and in his life so much. People will always assume things, such as that he is your baby. Nothing wrong with it, just dont go claiming that he is yours.
2006-10-31 12:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NOT BAD ,PROBABLY THIS IS A GOOD THANG YOU LOVE YOUR BROTHER, JUST LET YOUR MOM HAVE HER TIME WITH HIM TOO DON'T BE SELFISH , AND WHEN SOMEONE ACTS LIKE IT IS YOUR BABY IT IS OK TO LET THEM KNOW THAT HE IS YOUR BROTHER IN FACT IT IS PROBABLY BETTER WHEN THY KNOW, I DID THE SAME THANG AS YOU AT A PHASE IN MY LIFE, ABOUT YOUR SAME AGE TOO
2006-10-31 12:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋