My 4yr old son has a temper problem, whenever he gets seriously mad he halls off and either attacks his sister or if it's me he will actually punch me. I tell him as well as does his Dad "you don't hit, you epecially don't hit girls". He still does it. What can we do to overcome this? I discipline him when he does it, but it hasn't mad an impact yet.
2006-10-31 04:32:53 · 12 answers · asked by australianforlove 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You should try and catch him before he hits and teach him to calm down and find a better outlet for his anger. Maybe when he gets mad, you have an area where he can play with playdough so he can work with his hands or have a punching bag he can get out when he gets really angry. Also have him voice his anger. Tell him that its okay to let the person know that he is mad but its not okay for him to hit anyone.
2006-10-31 04:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for 4 year old boys to hit. Seriously, that's the age when boys hit. His hitting sounds a bit more extreme than most, however. You should be concerned about his temper. It's not common for a boy to get "seriously mad".
Is there a correlation btwn his anger and being tired, hungry...certain times of day? Pay attention to what things cause him to become overly angry. That's where you will find your solution.
2006-10-31 12:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, it's shouldn't be "especially girls"--it should be "nobody".
Go to the store and buy a big plastic bin and put it in the room where most of his toys are. Explain to him that that is the bucket where his toys go if he hits. When he hits or punches you, pick out a toy and make him put it in the bin. Tell him he isn't going to play with that toy anymore because he hurt mommy (or whoever). Tell him he can have his toy back if he apologizes and promises not to hit anymore. If he hits again though, then the toy goes right back in the bucket.
Eventually, he'll see a majority of his toys in the bucket and he'll stop hitting.
2006-10-31 12:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is old enough for time outs. Find a "naughty step or chair" and every time he does it he spends five minutes in the chair. Then he HAS TO APOLOGIZE to the person he hit so he recognizes his actions. He may need an outlet for his temper, maybe enroll him in a martial arts class or organized sports.
2006-10-31 12:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take his toys away - all of them. Confine him to his room - no TVs or video. It is time for him to go to bed. We are talking a major "time out" here. He can earn his toys back (one of his choice at a time) for each day that he does not hit. If he hits again before he can earn another toy, he loses the one he just got back.
It has to be painful for HIM - not you, your daughter, or your family. And, you don't tell him that "you're going to..." do something - you're the parent and you just DO it.
2006-10-31 12:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, my pediatrician gave me this advice, the best method I found was to hit him back. Not hard, but it does startle them that they will start to think twice before they do it over and over again. When boys are young it is hard to distinguish between hitting girls and boys. They just don't care. That lesson is learned when they are aqbout 8 or 9.
2006-10-31 12:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gail H 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would pop that butt! Good enough to make an impression - but obviously not close to abuse. Time outs work better for some children. What ever you do, you HAVE to stay persistent! If you cave they will know.
Children will do what they can get away with. Show him he can't!!!
2006-10-31 12:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by stephanie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get an evaluation for him. My sister was worse than before she got one. They're free and they really help.
2006-10-31 12:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Medusa [is in ♥] 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just too love him
when you discipline what you did you tell him "go to your room " ?
you should hit his hand that hit his sister so he know what is it feel like when you got hit. dont make it too painfull.
2006-10-31 12:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by gila 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell him youll take his toys! it works for my sister
2006-10-31 12:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa j 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋