Now at some point in our lives we have all been rejected by someone. So why is that when ask me to "*&!k them and I say that I'm not interested, I suddenly am a *****? And if the guy is of a different ethnicity than myself I'm always called a racist. Not that I really care what they think. I was just curious to know what's up? Can't a girl just not be interested in someone? And am I really a ***** because I don't want to hook-up with someone? I'm normally polite until I feel like they are being too pushy about it. Then I usually walk away.
*!* I know this is Yahoo Answers and some people will say I'm a ***** for it. And that's fine. Sometimes it's funny. But I would like an honest opinion please.*!*
2006-10-31 04:31:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Insecurity and somewhat of a low self esteem.
1) They are making themselves vulnerable by having the potential to be rejected.
2) They obviously were not observing whether or not you were interested in them before they made themselves vulnerable.
3) Their ego prevents them from seeing that it was their lack of observation and discernment that caused this rejection and blame the woman for "leading him on".
4) Then they self evaluate themselves to see what it was that caused you to be not interested (not knowing that its probably their personality that is causing the rejection), and deduce that you're just a ***** because you are " too good for him" type of reasoning.
Im sure that there are a lot of women that want to ask men out but dont out of fear of rejection. Men conquer rejection with agression. Women rather not be rejected at all, and there is no "conquering" mentality, but it does take a blow to the self esteem.
2006-10-31 04:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jose 3 · 16⤊ 4⤋
I don't know what I would do. That has never happened before! LOL j/k! If that happens to me it depends on how bad I really wanted the female. When I was in the game, I would take shots all the time. Sometimes just for practice, sometimes for fun, and sometimes there was the game winning shot at the trophy that just rattled off the rim. That can be disappointing or even discouraging but angry?.....I don't think I ever got angry at someone for not being interested in me.
2016-03-19 02:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer for myself, but...
A. I've never treated a woman like that.
B. I don't expect a woman to date me (or didn't, since I'm married now).
I think most men are pretty insecure when it comes to women, & lash out when they get rejected. Women, to most men, are a complete & utter mystery. I've never understood women, though I get along with women better than most men, & I don't think I ever will. And it's not just a sex thing, women have a completely different mindset than men. I used to think I was alone in this, but have discovered in the last few years that most women react the same way, as do most men.
Plus, men are pigs.
2006-11-01 02:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by lee17201 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
yeah, it does kind of depend on the situation leading up to this scenario. is there heavy flirting or even 'petting' going on beforehand? if so, then I could see how a guy would get mad because he feels lead on. However, if you're just having conversation and enjoying each other's company, and you decline the offer for sex, then the guy is letting the rejection hurt his pride. you might also want to take a look at how you dress. if you dress very provicatively when you go out (which there is nothing wrong with) it might be giving guys the impression that you are easy. back in the 'old days,' the only women who dressed provocatively were loose women. things are different today, of course, but members of the older generation will still think that way and we really can't blame them.
2006-10-31 04:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 3⤊ 5⤋
It's much easier for a man to get all huffy and mad about something like being rejected instead of showing real emotion and admit that it hurts. No one likes being rejected but EVERYONE gets rejected at least once in their life. They'll get over it.
2006-10-31 04:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by eurekablyth 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I don't know you so it's hard to give you an accurate answer but I can only guess that you have a way about you that gives some men the idea that you want to be more than friends with them.
They feel as if your playing with their emotions and playing games with them and they become very defensive.
Other people are just plain outright rude and nasty when they don't get their way.
2006-10-31 04:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by jarhed 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
To be honest with you, I don't think you are being a b----.....most likely the men that you are choosing are insecure and self centered.
Don't worry about it, it's thier problem not yours.
Keep doing what you are and someday the right one will be there and you will know it.
2006-10-31 04:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
A lot of guys don't communicate and read body language as well as women do, and they literally only have one thing on their minds, and so they don't understand when you're just interested in them, wanting to learn more about them, and not ready to go to bed yet. They see a woman smiling and laughing at what they say, showing them attention, etc. and they just automatically think "Hey! She's giving me that look, laughing at my dumb jokes, etc. That means she want's me!" Then they get all excited about it, and start thinking about what studs they must be for such a hot girl to want them. They're all high on being big great wonderful studs. They're all excited about getting your pants off.
When you actually refuse them, it comes as a huge blow. Totally unexpected. They think you were lying to them all along. They don't realize that you were still feeling them out and hadn't reached the full commitment point. They think you're just a horrible, awful person for deliberately leading them on that way.
They're pretty simple creatures. You can only send them a very few basic messages. Everthing you say or do is interpreted into one of two messages. 1) she wants me 2) she doesn't. Being very nice to them, and then not getting in the sack with them, comes as a major mixed message.
Of course, there are guys out there who aren't like that. This only describes about half of them!
2006-10-31 04:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋
If a man felt he was led on by flirtation and then rejected, I could see his point. If, however, you did nothing to encourage his interests before he came on to you, the problem is his own pride. Don't make his problems your problems.
2006-10-31 04:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Calico Skies 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
men get it in their heads that you want them.... this boosts their ego, which inflates their confedence..... then if you say no, you have scarred their ego and confedence and the only way to save face is to call you degrading names to make it seem like they did not want you anyway....... not all men do this of coarse, but it can be avoided if you crawl in a hole and never talk to another man..... if you know you are not wanting to "go the distance" with this person, then try less flirting and more serious conversations throughout the evening..... if they "know you" they are less likely to call names when you politly tell them you are not looking for "that"
2006-10-31 04:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by who be boo? 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋