so I've been seeing someone who's 38 and I'm 23...it's quite a bit of difference, but we both get along great! All his closest friends already really like me(I've been seeing him for about 2 weeks now) and I do have a son thats 7 months old which he knows about and understands I have responsibilities with him...in short this man is a wonderful one and I've been with the most horrible imaginable so what do you guys think as long as two people really care for each other right?
2006-10-31 04:20:05 · 28 answers · asked by pezzle9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.
No, age does not matter if both of you don't care.
It is IMPORTANT for you to realize that when he's 65, you will only be 50. Lots to think about there.
Reality check:
Neither of you have any REAL idea if you LOVE the other, so you need to take your time to figure that out.
You have already experienced that "sexual attraction" does not make a relationship last.
Love does
So love encompasses all beyond sex. Before the sex, if you want him to think of you as more than an 8 week sexual encounter that boosts his ego...
you need to show him what is unique and interesting about you that makes you above all the other women he can have.
You can't fake this. You must get to know YOU, and then be "confident" about putting the real you out there in a fun and open way.
He'll like you more if you are fun, tease him a little, show you are NOT desperate to have him, or any man for that matter, show you respect yourself, believe in yourself, can manage by youself in a very sweet way;
and show him that you really like him, but you have your boundaries, and won't cross them even for him.
Only then will he really respect you, and consider you for a long-term relationship.
A guy forms his opinon about how he feels about you: Sex-object, or Cool-girl
according to how you present yourself.
A guy will desire a Cool-girl that makes him wait for the sex part, but will be willing to wait
if she is lots of fun, interesting, confident, and shows she likes him a lot and more
BEFORE she gives him sex.
Men RESPECT having to wait for sex with a very special Cool Girl.
What should you do if you have already had sex with him already?
Talk to him and tell him that you made a mistake by being intimate with him so early in the relationship, and that you don't want to "go there" the next time you get together, if there is a next time. Then STICK TO IT.
Don't give up any sex.
This is your only chance with this guy to prove you are more than a sex-object to him.
You can not expect a guy to respect you
if you don't first respect yourself.
Give him time to think about you in this way to where you demand his respect in order to have a relationship with you.
A player type guy will leave you.
A guy you may want long term will continue to see you, even without the intimacy; and give you the respect and deeper caring you want, for as long as you want, and his feelings will grow in the right way.
I wish you LOVE
stw
.
2006-10-31 04:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the age you guys are at now, I'd say that age doesn't matter. I mean, obviously you are being more mature than most 23 year olds are now because you have a child to take responsibility for. Also when a man still wants to be with you and respects you even though you have a child, must be a good guy. As long as he treats you as an equal and not someone younger and respects you as a woman and a parent and most of all respects your son...the it should not matter. I'm sure there will be people who will think it's wrong...but it's not about them...its about you. Good luck
2006-10-31 04:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa198517 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number in your case.
Age is an indicator of where someone might be in life. A 14 year old and a 16 year old are in vastly different places in life, but not so much a 16 year old and an 18 year old. An 18 year old and a 23 year old are in vastsly different places in life usually, but a 25 and a 35 usually not so much. Heck, even a 25 and a 40 year old will have more in common with where they are in life than an 18 and 23 usually. Someone who is 18 is just getting away from being a child, someone who is 23 is usually somewhat established. Someone who is 38 is just getting ready to move ahead in their carreeer. Not a lot of difference there, if you ask me.
2006-10-31 04:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right, age really is just a number. In your case I think it is fine. I think that it is a lot easier for a woman to be younger than the man rather than the opposite. I am 37 and have been with a guy that is now 26 for 2 1/2 years. Our age difference, because generally guys don't mature and have the need to "settle down" as most women do, has caused problems at times. You have to really work at any relationship, so one that is "different" is only harder. Good luck and take it one day at a time.
2006-10-31 04:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I would say from personal experience being that I am 25 and my hubby is 39 age matters not in the least. On the other hand let me correct that statement it may matter if that person is not mature enough to be with an older man.(assuming the man is mature himself lol) We have been married for 3 years so I was about your age when I met him. I am not going to lie and say it is heaven but I think we have a pretty normal(healthy relationship) an disagreement or argument here and there but what marriage doesn't. I would say if you really care about each other and it is what is best for you and your child than go for it. Best of Luck!
2006-10-31 04:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by justagirl2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're over the legal age, you get along better, I'm sure he has a good career, he cares about your child, Everything seems great! Age is only a number sweetie, all you have to do is be happy with him and your relationship will skyrocket! It's most certainly a plus that his friends like you. If he is great, stay with him, be happy, that's what God put us here for, to be happy and pass it on to others and the way you make it sound, he is VERY happy! Good luck, Hun.
~Frenchie~
2006-10-31 04:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are 23 you're an adult and you can make your own decisions. I personally wouldn't do it but i dont see anything wrong with 2 concenting adults. It would be different if you were only like 17 or 18... I wouldnt agree with that at all.
2006-10-31 04:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by Candace T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age only matters when it becomes a legal issue. You are both of legal age. You get along, his friends like you, and he's understanding about your child...GO FOR IT!!!!
Keep in mind tho it has only been two weeks, so do be cautious, but sounds like you may have a keeper!
2006-10-31 04:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are having a kid evens out with him being 15 years older. I would say go for it and know this person in detail. And if things go ok proceed to the next step.
2006-10-31 04:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you turn legal age doesnt matter. if your comfortable with the peron and if you love him or like him as much as you seem to do then what the hell. age means nothing. love has no age. and regards to friends thats great that they all like you. but even if they were to not like you. the only thing that matters is you and him. thats it the end. wish you the best with your relationship
2006-10-31 04:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by xtropicaldreamz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋