Other than sporting events, through friends or going to church, were can single women over 40 go to meet quality men? I've tried online and found too many people exaggerate the truth or keep important facts hidden. Anyone got any suggestions?
2006-10-31 04:17:34 · 24 answers · asked by Me, Myself & I 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey let me know where i can meet a NORMAL guy first !
2006-10-31 04:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 43 year old man. Have a great career, my own house, cars, money. I am educated and well rounded. I was married for 18 years and got divorced several years ago as while I was working my tail off, my wife was working hers off too, but with everyone else but me.
Anyway, I have been single for 5 years now. Been on countless dates and have also tried the web-dating thing. Every on on their except me lies like mad, I swear. I have also come to conclude that its all a "game" that I no longer want anything to do with. Everyone I have met are insane, on drugs, are looking for a daddy for them and / or their kids or have one symbol in mind that they look for more than anything: "$$$$".
I can only give you one real bit of advise:
Although it is not pleasent to be alone all of the time, it sure beats being with the wrong person. You must make peace with yourself that its not a bad thing to have high standards. Do not under any circumstances give up your dream and then find someone to "settle" for. Never let anyone take advantange of you. Wait for the right person to come along.
You must be patient and know that eventually that person will cross your path. Wait for the person you can not live with out, not the one you can live with.
I think that if your meant to meet someone, it will happen when you least expect it. Seems like if you go searching, it leads to disapointment.
Good Luck.
2006-10-31 12:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not at the bar or online.
Bottom line is that there is no place to "meet" a mate that can be relied upon, because when you go searching for a "quality" man, you will learn that the people you find are often times not searching for a "quality" woman, but instead for a desperate or gullible woman for easy sex.
The best advice I can give you is to stop looking. Go out and live your life and have a good time, because while you're busy searching out a mate, you are likely missing out on countless guys that you could meet in your everyday life that would be FAR more suitable than anyone you would have to search out on a dating website or singles function.
2006-10-31 12:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Barbera, I have been married twice and I have been in a relationship with a man. I do not know what it is, but I attract abusive men.
A friend once told me, NO MAN IS WORTH IT. I can certainly see what she is saying.
I have known friends that have gone online and they have had disasters . I do not know , what to tell you. I am sure there is good quality men around and not married. Maybe doing some volunteer work, in a Hospital or something like that. It is a different avenue I suppose.
Good Luck
2006-10-31 12:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Aussie Possum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go places YOU like, a hangout where your friends can hook you up with people can sometimes make you feel obligated to go out on that blind date...yikes. I met my husband online, but I guess that is just a lucky streak...amazingly enough, I found him on yahoo personals, he never kept anything from me...but really, if you go places you enjoy and have fun, a pretty middle aged woman like you should have no problem finding a great guy to be around, I wish you luck, no on e should have to be alone, Happy Halloween!
~Frenchie~
2006-10-31 12:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're pretty rare and this goes for all age groups, not just yours.
My advice is to forget it and live your life. Most older men who are "single" are already at least one-time losers, and you don't want to start in with divorced men, ect. Most are interested in sex and believe that it should be an integral part of the dating experience.
The whole society is screwed up because of liberalism.
2006-10-31 12:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might try live music venues and jam sessions . Do a little research and find a venue that has music you enjoy. Most musicians are very open and social ( I say this as I am one) and like meeting and talking with new and interesting people.
2006-10-31 12:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by ZiggyCool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard sporting events of being a "good" place to meet men. That's a new one.
2006-10-31 12:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, for quality men, I think the one you excluded, Church, is your best bet. If you go where single men go looking for sex, then all you'll ever be is a lay. If you go where single men who aren't looking for sex happen to be, one of them is bound to notice you.
2006-10-31 12:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Barbara, you are in my prayers. I am in the same boat. Really no good places to go to look but good advice to just let it happen. Hard to take thou when no one is there to ask how your day was when you return home.(My cats can't talk) Book stores that have reading corners are good places and colleges. Anyway good luck
2006-10-31 12:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by sisterwater92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you what. Let's make a deal. I will give you only the absolute most truthful answers,and expect the same. Lets see where it leads.
2006-10-31 12:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋