I really dont know where to start but lately it has been going down hill we both love each other very much so there's no question there but since my bf lost his job money is really tight we both been looking for one but its so damn hard to get hired somewhere in michigan now so money is making us fight then we dont wanna listen to each others point of view or understand each other so thats a fight grrr everything is a fight I dunno what to do i dont wanna get outta it cause i really love him but my God we fight all the time i just wanna fix this ????
2006-10-31 04:17:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah me and my ex were like that - i suggest you guys sit down and talk about what's going cuz there are going tobe ruff times in your relationship and if you can work this out and get past these small things then you and him were meant to be.
2006-10-31 04:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Write in complete sentences!! My word, I can't understand a damn thing reading your question. To give you answer, though, money ain't gonna solve your problems. If you truley love each other you wouldn't be fighting no matter what your situation is. This money problem you have right now is just a SYMPTOM of your relationship problem, and if you think for one moment that it is the problem you're a fool. I can tell you with certainty that when you get out of financial strain, which I am sure will happen, the problems will persist. They will just no longer be money. You will continue to fight. Does this make sense? If not, it's likely that this isn't what you want to hear, or I don't really know what he's like. Yeah, sure. MONEY IS NOT THE PROBLEM, IT IS A SYMPTOM. IF YOU WERE IN A LOVING, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP, THERE WOULDN'T BE FIGHTING. If you have any questions or need clarifying, shoot me an email.
2006-10-31 04:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by cagewalker 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, well,well! At least you know where the problem is stemming from. I would say you know your up tight you know he's uptight. You let him know that you're up tight for the same reason he is. If you find yourself snappy and irritated that you rather wait until later to talk in order to keep from taking it out on him. He should do the same thing. The good thing about it is that you both will over come this. This is part of a relationship. You two love each other and that's no reason to tuck tail and run for cover although it seems to be easier to do sometimes. You'll both get jobs and you'll soon face new issues. That's part of relationships keep pushing forward. You'll continue to love, grow, and trust one another. He'll know just like you know when the heat is on at least you'll have each other to lean on. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-10-31 04:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Money I believe is the number one factor in divorce, I can't imagine it being much different in a relationship.
If this is causing stress in your relationship, maybe make a rule, no discussing of money. It will be hard, but remember you are both in the same boat together, there needs to be some compromises made and solutions suggested.
2006-10-31 04:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im going through kind of the same thing. i know how hard it is. the best thing is to take some time away from each other. i know it doesnt sound good. but you both need to clear your heads and you cant do that while your ready to throw a brick at each other (just saying) and at each others throughts all the time.
2006-10-31 04:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you 2 need to relax clear your minds dont let jobs ruin your relationship u both need to realize that u are both gonna run into issues..whether it be money family problems or whatever just remember you are both in the same boat and need to work together to make things better! encourage him and let him know u see hes trying hard to find a job just like u are....! and remind him how much u love him! it will calm things down and make things not so hard
2006-10-31 04:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Going through something similar. Just remember (and remind him) that the lack of money is a TEMPORARY thing. Things will get better soon. And give him a big hug.
2006-10-31 04:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can use this as an opportunity to help grow together. As a "team" you can work towards your financial issues and overcome them. By working together, you'll find that you can overcome these struggles and ultimately become closer in the process.
2006-10-31 04:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then sit down with your bf and discuss this like adults, of course there is stress cause there is no money, but there should ALWAYS BE RESPECT, such as listening and communicating versus arguing....
2006-10-31 04:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by voluptoustaureanfemale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HE MIGHT NOT LIKE THE IDEA, BUT SEE IF YOU CAN GET A LOAN FROM A PARENT UNTIL HE CAN GET A GOOD JOB MONEY BREAKS UP MORE REALTIONSHIP THEN EVER OR GET A ROOMATE IF POSSIBLE THAT WILL HELP SOME
2006-10-31 04:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋