It just seems like there are different expectations here and I don't think the relationship can last. Yes, there's been plenty of talking about it, counseling, etc. We're way past that, I just want opinions.
2006-10-31 04:11:32 · 23 answers · asked by TrainerMan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that sexual compalitiy has to be there between 2 people it is an important way to get close to each other and bond. I mean it is a part of the relationship. So if you have tried EVERYTHING that you could then yes it is time to let it go. I mean you don't want to be unhappy the rest of your life, you will start to be resentful towards the other person or the opposite, and then there runs the risk that one of you may cheat and then that opens a whole new can of worms and pain.
2006-10-31 04:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer this with a few more questions. Are you married or just BF/GF? If married, do you have children? If so, you really need to find a good sexologist to help make you and your mate more sexually compatiable (yes it can be done in a commited relationship). If you are only BF/GF and you are already doing couseling and what not, I'd say, leave now, don't drag it out, if its this bad and you aren't married and have no kids, don't wait until you are to say "I should have left before I strapped us both with children". And it gives you both a chance to find someone more suitable. This doesn't have to be a bad thing, you are just on different wavelengths and they aren't matching up. This is an importantant component of life and one feeling shortchanged on an ongoing basis is a recipe for disaster and resentment over time. While I don't believe sex is everything, I have had BF's who thought it was! Letting it continue was a mistake I didn't make. There are lots of things that make a relationship, of which sex in the hours and minutes of the weeks and years ahead may amount to a handful, but if you are feeling shirtchanged because it isn't enough for you, or your partner is, its not likely to be resolved by say, doing more yardwork together. If you're going to stay then stay, if not, time to bite the bullet and save as much of the good stuff that might be left and BE HONEST! It may hurt, but I think in the long run, will be better for both of you, because it would seem both of you deserve better than you are getting from one another! Good luck to you!
2006-10-31 04:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes no sense to stay with someone when you aren't happy with them, and you've already tried everything that you can to change that. If there isn't something one or both of you to do to make things better, then there is no reason to continue the relationship. Yes, sex isn't everything, but it is a big part of a relationship. If two people aren't happy in the bedroom, that will start to spill over outside of it, too. So little annoyances may become big irritations. Plus, if you stayed with a person who wasn't compatible when it comes to sex, you may start thinking about cheating somewhere down the road. The longer the relationship goes on, the worse it will hurt when you finally do break up. Once you know that your partner isn't the right one for you, no matter what the reason, then all you are doing is delaying the inevitable by continuing to date them.
2006-10-31 04:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual intimacy should be an integral part of any genuine relationship. If you and your partner are not on the same page sexually and possess different expectations, then yes, it is ok to end a relationship for this reason.
Life is too short not to be happy.
2006-10-31 04:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A healthy relationship is not based on sex, but it is an important part of love. If you have grown apart physically, and there is no way to repair it... then yes, you should break up. Otherwise all that is going to happen is that one or both of you will soon begin to cheat... and that's worse than being with someone your not 100% compatible with.
2006-10-31 04:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, unfortunately, I'd hate to say it, but sex is actually 10% of a good relationship... if you can't be satisfied, then lack of a sexual relationship can actually cause a lot of stress in a relationship. If it can't be fixed, there may be a lot of drama going on which may lead to an eminent breakup
2006-10-31 04:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so do it while you can before things get complicated maybe you should try teaching first and if still nothing than good bye. I think sex isnt the first thing in a relationship but it sure would be great. Some things you should not have to force.
2006-10-31 04:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual incompatibility is physical in nature. Nature has made the genitals of female of free size that the variation in dimension does not really matter. Compatibility thus is only mental. In fact in the sex act also it is the mental compatibility that plays its part.
2006-10-31 04:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand the problem really but if any relationship is worth saving you and your partner must work at it everyday. I was married for 18 yrs and our marriage fell apart because of the lack of communication..you must talk bottom line.good luck
2006-10-31 04:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I may not be politically correct to say that but, a lot of feeling and emotions, desires etc. are all wrapped up in sex
2006-10-31 04:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by c_autumn_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋