In our area, there is a place called "The Playground" where kids skate, play lazertag, etc. They offer a "lock in" for Halloween, where the kids are dropped off at 7 pm and are picked up at 7 am, no parents, but there are staff members. A friend of mine wanted me to let our daughters go together (the girls are both 10) and I said absolutely not! She said I am too paranoid and over protective of my daughter and that I should let her go. Keep in mind, my daughter is only 10 years old. I said "No, she is too young. No way am I letting her go to an all night thing like that" Well, parents, what do you think? Who's right? My daughter is absolutely not going. Would you let a 10 yr old go to an event like that without a parent? My friend says I'm being unreasonable. I say I'm being a good mother.
2006-10-31 04:11:27 · 19 answers · asked by Lotus 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You are 100% correct. I would never allow my kids to stay in a environment that I have no control of, and no way of knowing if there is a problem.
I would be concerned because I do not know those staff members. How do you know the backrounds of the staff.
This day and age you can never be too careful.
2006-10-31 04:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think that it really depends on the staff, the amount of kids and the maturity of your daughter. I went to school in a very, very small town. My parents knew my teachers, knew all of my classmates (there were all of twelve of us) and knew their parents. My school did have the occasional "lock in" when I was in late elementary and Jr. high and my parents always let me go, and I always had a great time. However, if I hadn't grown up in such a small town I think that it would have been reasonable for them not to allow it. It really does depend on the circumstances, maybe, as an option, you could look into it and see if they need more chaperone's then volunteer. Your daughter is at an age where I doubt that she would mind if you were there, if it were possible, she would probably enjoy having you there. You are being a good mother, and it is your job to do what is best for your daughter.
I just thought of something, if they are doing it tonight, are they going to get all of these kids ready for school in the morning too? The lock in that I went to were always on weekends, if it is tonight, you could just tell your friend that your daughter needs x amount of sleep and you know that she won't get it there, that would be another reason for her not to go.
2006-10-31 13:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Are the employees underpaid teens that won't give a rats @ss? or are they responsible adults? What is the age group like? would the 10 y.o be among the youngest, oldest, or in the middle?
I went to lock ins when I was a kid at elementary school and at the YMCA, so I know they are controlled rather well. Also, from what I saw, I'd be more likely to let my 10 year old go than to let my 16 year old go.
2006-10-31 12:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you on that. What utter nonsense!!! These people should put a mandatory age appropriate limit on this "lock" because it should not be for anyone under perhaps 15. I don't even let my 16 year old son go to parties where he has to be out all night. I suspect that he will appreciate it someday! You are being a responsible parent - something that a lot of parents are lacking today!
2006-10-31 12:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by vanityspice 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being unreasonable,I have a ten year old daughter,and there is no way I would let her go to some thing like that,she is to young.I still wouldn't let her go even if her 14 years old sister was going to be there.(which I wouldn't allow her to go either)
2006-10-31 16:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with you. I would not let my 10 year old spend the night anywhere I was not 100% sure who was going to be there and who the responsible adults were going to be. Now a days you have to look out for all the freaks that are out there. I would go with your first instinct its better to be safe than sorry.
2006-10-31 13:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your friend to a point I wouldn't keep my child from attending but I would set a time limit and then go get them both or at least check up on them throughout the night .You have to let go and let them grow at some point. It is supervised after all.
2006-10-31 12:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know my sister has had things like that for girl scouts and stuff, but there are usually other moms there, not just some strangers you don't know. I don't think you are being unreasonable. It's hard enough doing it when you know the people she will be with, even harder to just leave her with strangers. Do what you feel is reasonable and what you are comfortable with.
2006-10-31 12:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are right I wouldnt let my daughter go to an all night even like that without me her parent i think she is too young
2006-10-31 12:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anita 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT being unreasonable, I wouldn't let my child go even if it were staffed by nuns, who knows what could happen, with the staffers and the kids, with kids and other kids.
I say you go girl, you are a strong mom!!!
2006-10-31 13:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by Shi. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋