why do i stay?

Question

I know i ask alot about my gf, im just confused, heres the latest. After she admitted that she cheated on me, she swore shed change and shed be sure to call me and let me know what was going on, she cheated about 3 weeks ago and told me about 3or4 days ago. She also told me that for the last 8 months evrybody she hangs out with ( including family) thinks shes single. Well any way last night she didnt call or show up like she said she was going to, do you think she cheated again?

Answer 1

Break up with her. She is a cheater, and cheating isn't acceptable in a relationship. She broke a promise....not once, but multiple times. You can't be in an intimate relationship with someone who you can't trust....your mental, emotional, and physical health are at stake here.

Get rid of the tramp. Sorry, but that is what she is.

Answer 2

hey there just read your message.
like you i am in a relationship that blows hot and cold making me feel more upset/confused than happy and loved up. i can understand why you stay, i guess you hope things will improve.
but it doesnt sound like things will anytime soon from where im standing- sorry mate.
your gf has cheated once and altough you may be trying to work it through, it seems like the trust will not be there fully again (you say you think she is doing this again, do you have any evidence to suspect this?)
she also does not seem to be making a great effort to sort things out as shes not putting in any effort (ie/ you are still waiting for her to call).
plus; if youve been seeing each other for a while i would have thought her family would be in the know.
it is up to you how you go on with this, i would advise you to try and talk to her properly and tell her how your feeling, let her do this aswell and then give your best to the relationship and see how it goes. if you are still in this position in a few weeks i would strongly suggest you consider going seperate ways. its hard and sad but you can not carry on the same way.
good luck!

Answer 3

There's always that possibility, especially considering her track record of cheating. Man, you should move on and find a better girlfriend. If this girl really loved you she would be more respectful. You deserve better! how much trouble would it be to pick up a phone and call you if she couldn't make it last night? Apparently she has no concern about your feelings. There are LOTS of fish in the ocean, go find you a good one. Life is short so make the most of it.

Answer 4

She may not have cheated just because she didn't show up. What you have to ask yourself is: why does everyone think she is single? She has to be giving that impression. A woman that is happy in her relationship makes sure that everyone around her knows it. You may need to cut your losses and move on to someone who will be happy to let the world know she is your girl.

Answer 5

You love her, that is why you stay. But, lemme tell you, if you are a really nice guy, you can find a nice girl that won't sting you along like this girl. Have some respect and self confidence. It is hard getting out of a relationship, but you need to put yourself first. She doesn't care about your feelings, why should you let her keep doing it. Tell her you are over all of her BS. It is hard, but, life is too short to spend your time on lame people!

Answer 6

of course she cheated again. and us telling you "hey you should leave her" is not going to convince you that you should.All she seems to do is break your heart, but you can't blame her cheating all on her inability to commit to a relationship. You are an enabler, my friend, because you continue to take her back and forgive her million of times over because deep inside, you want to believet aht she is the girl you fell in love with when you know that she is not.

You need to leave her and do it as quickly as you can. It's not fair to her or you to continue to be in this relationship where each of you is hurt more than you are loved. I hopw this helps

Answer 7

I think you need to worry less about whether she's cheating or not (sounds like she is!) and more about why you're willing to put up with this nonsense! Low self-esteem? Work on it and get out of this toxic relationship before it does major damage to you (mentally and/or physically--STDs anyone?) Good luck. We're all behind you here on YA!

Answer 8

Dude, why are you doing this to yourself. You deserve someone way better than this and way better treatment. This girl just has you hanging, she's playing you. Leave her and move on. She can't be faithful to you and on top of that lying about being involved with someone, she clearly has serious issues and in no way does she seem to want to improve on it. Leave now, leave before she does more damage to you.

Answer 9

I think your only torturing yourself by staying with her. She isn't into you enough obviously. She will continue doing this to you as long as you allow her to. Dont drive yourself crazy wondering if she was cheating last night. Does it really matter ? She treats you like sh*t as it is. You need to get yourself out of this situation.

Answer 10

Dude........time for a change of girlfriend. She obviously doesn't want it to be known that she is with you, so she is just using you. You should be with someone who appreciates you and wants to spend time with you, instead of going out and doing someone else.....I wouldn't even bother to call her, just let her go and get on with your life. Find someone new, and IF she does call you, just tell her your sorry you've moved on with your life....