She wanted to to use her dildos & a strapon on me. I keep saying no cuz it's not manly. She wanted me to at least try it once. I agreed finally & tried it. Since then, i can't look her in the eyes. I think she told her friends cuz everytime they meet, they give me a weird look & laugh. She still wants to do me like that again. I love her, but i feel that i lost the respect to myself. Any advice ?
2006-10-31 04:00:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ooo, that doesn't sound good. Breaking trust is a bad thing for a relationship, and it sounds like she broke that trust! You trusted her, even with somthing you wanted nothing to do with! (And I don't blame you!) Tell her you feel betrayed, see if you guys can talk about this. Good luck, honey. xoxox
2006-10-31 04:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Had you asked us BEFORE you gave in...I would have told you NOT to do ANYTHING sexuallly that you didnt want to do ESPECIALLY if it made you uncomfortable. People do the weirdest things for live but you should NEVER do anything that may make you feel like you lost your own self-respect and SHE should have respected your answer of NO. Now that you have done it...its easy to say get over it; but if your going to remain with her...you must get over it. Perhaps your paranoid about her friends and you feel awkward around them. If you think for a moment she told her friends ...that would mean she is untrustworthy and you REALLY should get rid of her. I wish you well.
2006-10-31 04:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lost respect for yourself? Um, why?
If you love her and want to please her then lighten up and embrace her fetish. If it really makes you uncomfortable, tell her directly, and if she really loves you then she won't ask you anymore. Otherwise, find a happy medium. Find something which satisfies her fetish but doesn't make you so uncomfortable (making someone uncomfortable is often a vital part of certain fetishes but it's usually done with someone who LIKES that sort of thing). Find something you BOTH enjoy and then enjoy each other!
2006-10-31 04:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Prince of Pomp 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, if this girl tells people about the details of your intimacy, run.
Second, if you ever feel uncomfortable in a sexual situation, run.
Third, any activities between consenting adults should be part of a "normal" relationship. If you think is weird, run.
2006-10-31 04:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL.
Trust issues.
There's nothing wrong with this if both parties involved are actually into it. It sounds like maybe she also has a thing with humiliation. You may just have to decide whether you're really sexually compatible, and thus compatible in a relationship.
2006-10-31 04:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you feel like you lost your self respect then you need to tell her that and if she doesnt seem to understand get out bc wether its a guy controling a girl or a girl controlling a guy its just wrong. Love shouldnt make you feel degraded.
2006-10-31 04:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you agree to it... No matter how much you love a person, you should not agree to do something that will make you loose your self-respect. How did this experience make you feel? If she loves you she wil understand that you love her dearly but cannot do something that makes you feel ashamed of yourself.
2006-10-31 04:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her what you just said here. If you lover her, and she loves you, she will understand how you feel, or at least try to. Don't do something that you don't want to do just because you love someone. That isn't love.
2006-10-31 04:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda SSS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should get even with her and then you will feel better, try to get her to do something you want and convince her the same way she did you, and if she refuses tell her you're gonna refuse too. And if she agress then you and her will have lots of fun doing crazy stuff .
2006-10-31 04:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. I personally think that would be lots of fun, but then that's me. If if's not fun for you, time to move on to a new girlfriend.
2006-10-31 04:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋