My mother in law HATES dogs!!!?

Question

I have a less than fortunate situation of staying with my mother in law until our new house is ready.We have 2 dogs(which she hates) and she does not allow them to come in the house,does not permit bathing them(claims that they are dirty beasts so no point bathing them),does not allow premium dog food,only leftover scarps allowed(does not want to waste money on dirty beasts),does not tolerate anyone cuddling them.She even said that if she has a choice,she will cook them up for dinner!! Is she crazy?? What should i do to make her like them more?

I must add that i pay for the dog food (hidden in the storage room) and feed them when she is not around or aware.

Answer 1

Most people who do not like dogs, don't like them because they are afraid of them. it is terrible how many people are just absolutely terrified of them. First off, I would not let her come between you and your dogs. Of course since it is her house, you cannot let them in. But I would feed them the regular food and spend a lot of time cuddling them or playing with them when she can see it. If she can't deal with it, then I would find somewhere else to stay. When my dad had a situation like this when he was young he moved out and him and his 2 Airedales lived in a tent for a few months. Once you get your new house, don't put the dogs away when she comes to visit-it is your house and if she don't like the dogs then too darn bad.

Answer 2

1. Your mother in law hates you, that's why she is making your life difficult with the dogs.
2. You may live with her, but you must do what you want with your dogs (bathe, feed and cuddle). Let her say the opposite. Ignore her. The more she dislikes it, the more you must roll around with your dogs. Does she pay for the dog food? Do you not have any income of your own?
3. make sure you make clear you make your own decisions. Otherwise, you'll have more serious problems later on. What will happen when you have kids? Who will decide how to raise them?
4. Also explain to her that if the dogs are not cuddled and played with etc, the dogs will get aggressive and start barking. Does she prefer that?

Answer 3

If it weren't the dog it would most likely be something else the MIL hated about you. Although you have to stop the hitting. grab the paper and tell her, I don't hit you when you growl at me, you don't hit the dog. It may sound crazy but train MIL the way you trained the dog. Although I have to say ashamed of you i saying "not the typical Pit Bull " she sounds very much the typical pit bull (those that make the news are not typical) No I'm not a pit bull owner, a yorkie owner that gets her kicks attacking pit bulls she knows will back down. If I had to pick a dog to have with a baby a dobie would be #1, pit bull on the short list, a yorkie not on the list.(although my dog loves kids and is safe with babies). MIL are tough, you don't want to upset hubby, so you sort of have to do the training on the sly. If she won't trian tell her privatly As a last result tell her I cant have you abusing my dog and making it mean, you either accept the dog or you go to a nursing home. She is living with you, you hold the power. I know MIL's are scary, traing the same you would a pit bull (although the pit bull is easier to train) LOL

Answer 4

You can't do anything to make someone like dogs if they don't. People have the right to not like animals. I would buy the dogs some good food, get their stuff together and find a nice clean kennel to board them in until you're away from this wackjob. The American Boarding Kennel Assoc. site can help find you one near you. I would also be very scared of someone who 'doesn't tolerate anyone cuddling them'. How does that work? How does she control what you're feeding them? If these conditions really are as such, I would board the dogs before the neighbors turn her in for neglect.

Answer 5

What an idiot. She sounds like a control freak. Don't you have any friends that can keep your dogs for awhile? I don't know where you live although winter is coming and if your dogs are not used to it they may not adapt too well to being outside 24/7.

She also sounds very stubborn and set in her ways. If I were you and I knew how my animals would be treated in her home I would have found different arrangements for myself and my dogs.

What does your husband think? Is he a wimp and cannot stand up to his mother? I know she is doing you a favor by letting you stay there although YOUR dogs are being treated unfairly (no time inside, no love, no baths, etc.) and I would NEVER be able to tolerate that.

As far as cooking them up for dinner......What type of a looney tune says something like that? Is she mentally ill?

Answer 6

1. If you are buying the food, then feed them. She has no right to tell you not to fee them what you bought.

2. You do need to "respect" her and leave the dogs outside, as it is her home.

3. Do you have a friend or other relative that could keep the dogs while you wait for your house to be ready?

You may need to look into getting them kennelled while you are waiting on your house. It may be costly, but the benefits to you and your dog would be worth it.

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Answer 7

Wow, what a *****. Well, since shooting her (the monster-in-law) is not legal.... perhaps boarding the dogs for now would be more humane. They would get food, shelter and exercise and you could visit them daily. I hate to suggest that, but they don't sound safe with her. Do you have any friends who could help? Other family members who like animals? Put a notice in a local classified flyer saying you need temporary foster homes for them. Just get them away from that piece of **** you call a human being.

Answer 8

Look she isnt ever gonna like them. She does have the right to say no dogs in house but no right to say you cant bathe them or what you feed them unless she is buying the dog food. Do not allow her to feed your dogs scraps as it is not good for them. Just take care of your own animals if she makes it impossible then you need to find other accomodations for them at a kennel or boarding facitlity.

Answer 9

sounds to me she has no heart! Why not make her sit and play with them and see how sweet they are? Also do not leave your dogs out side..its illegal to unless they have some kind of shelter. Plus if there not large dogs then they might be in danger from other wild animals. Also if my mother law said she hates dogs then frankly i would just say well i dont like the person you are and you dont need to be in my life.. yeah harsh but hating dogs is too much for me.

Answer 10

And who is she to tell you what YOU feed YOUR dogs. Is she buying the food? If you let her have her way, your dogs will end up malnourished by the time you move out.

I'd seek out a living arrangement elsewhere so your dogs don't have to be subjected to this ignorant behavior.

Sadly, if she doesn't like dogs, there isn't much you can do to change that opinion I'm afraid.