I hate to think the worst, but something just isn't right. He's 16, she is 14, and they are always together, he bosses her around like he owns her and she listens to him. No matter how mean he is, she forgives him and sticks up for him. He picked a fight with his father when she was sent to her room for being disrespectful. I just notice things that don't look right. Last night he was laying in her bed with her sleeping, and my husband had to wake him up and tell him to go to his own bed. Do you think I am making too much of it?
2006-10-31 03:51:42 · 21 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im 16 and that just doesnt sound right to me. If my little brother got in trouble i would def not argue with my parents about it. Its really not even normal for them to get along. Id think you would really want to talk to them about this or get someone else to before it got too serious.
2006-10-31 03:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that "the worst" is happening, but it could just be that they get along well together. I'm 17 and have 4 youger brothers, she probably forgives him for being mean because she just isn't the type to hold a grudge. I don't get too well along with my oldest youger brother(age 16), but I would still stick up for him when push comes to shove. I also get angry at my parents sometimes when they yell at my youger siblings and I don't think they should have. Like the other people said, you should look into it some more and talk to them about it(not in an athoritive or suspicious way, that will just make them defensive). Good luck.
2006-10-31 12:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by offlights 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with them separately.
May I suggest telling the girl that you know what is going on, ask her if there is anything that she wants to tell you. Tell her that you talked to the boy and he has told you that she needs to come clean. Ask her again if there is anything she needs to tell you. (of course do this in a place where she can't go running to the boy and question him and without you actually talking to the boy first)
This is a great way to get information from people when you are suspicious about their actions. Police do this technique.
I hope it's nothing, but it sounds very bad. Good luck!
2006-10-31 12:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This all seemed normal until you said he was in her bed sleeping. Most siblings at that age are constantly at each others throat but still love one another but in a sibling sorta way but at that age to sleep in the bed with his sister is a little weird for me. I think you are seeing more then what was mentioned and that is why your suspect and you have a good reason to be. I would start by talking to your daughter since she seems to be the more sensitive one in this and you probably can get all the answers out of her if you go to her one on one and talk heart to heart. Hopefully this has not went beyond the thought of incest but it seems to me that you need to get a handle on this now. Good luck.
2006-10-31 12:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what the problems maybe in your home but these kids are teens now and at that age the parents are the enemy it might just be that the brother is being protective of the sister... she is younger and more gullible and he is older so it may just be teens going through there fazes... brothers will boss there little sisters around like that but if these two ever physically become separated then they will come closer emotionally because they are siblings...like i said i don't know what the home life is like... i went through the same things with my sister because we had a rough home life... we fought all the time but when one of us got in trouble we were there for each other like family should be... there teenagers let them grow out of it....
2006-10-31 12:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by uhmmm... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true. You ought to be careful.
Send him to a summer camp so that he can get interested in other girls. let him know that you have your eye on him.
It could be that he's just protective and loving...but in which case she is just used to the love and emotions he shows her and has come to like it...making her susceptible to...you know, the worst.
Give them a chance. it's okay for kids to be close...but what's weird is that teens are more likely to fight at that age, not sleep together...
2006-10-31 11:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO I do not think you are making too much out of it. Those are not normal relationships between brother and sister. Get help. Set boundaries/rules also..like..its not appropriate for him to go in her room like that..etc..your kids need to understand they both have personal body boundaries..themselves as well as respecting others.
2006-10-31 13:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by wartytoadjody39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i think you should investigate this some more. I would be very wary of this going on in my home . I would have a talk with both of them and find out what is going on with them sounds suspicious to me as well. No you are right. good luck and god bless.
2006-10-31 11:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right to suspect something at that age they should be trying to kill each other Ewe and let my brother sleep in my room at tat age I was trying to get him to respect my privacy and not come in my room and you can imagine the fights we had
2006-10-31 12:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are they blood, or half siblings. Which doesnt really matter. Other than they may think it's ok if they're half. At any rate, go with your instincts and get to the bottom of it immediately!
2006-10-31 12:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋