he emotionally abuses me, he always finds a new way to put me down. i even ran away once but the cops found me. and they of course took my dads side. i've even considered suicide and i have cut myself but i have stop for now... and i dont want to continue liveing this way with my dad he makes me feel like ****!!! and that i dont deserve to have a life...
HELP???
2006-10-31 03:30:49 · 15 answers · asked by Carly-Bear 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It depends on what state you're in. In New York you can emancipate yourself at 16 only if you can support yourself without the aid of your parents, you are living away from them, you are not in receipt of foster care, and you are not living under their control. You don't even need to be declared emancipated, you just don't go back. Your problem, however could be solved with the aid of Child Protective Services. you need to find the number and call it and they will launch an investigation based on your allegations. You need to try and get some proof however, bruises, recordings of his verbal abuse, etc. and it helps if you have a credible witness.
2006-10-31 03:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Eileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly My Dear,
No you cannot definatly or legally emancipate yourself.
First of all, you have to be able to prove to a judge that you can
care for and fend for yourself. They will ask you a series of
questions, one common one is the infamous "Do You Have A Job?" and the second one is" how much is your income after taxes?" and the third is, "Do You Have your parents' parental consent?"
The courts look for stability in 16 year old minors... That's right, your still a minority! And if your just now wanting to get emaincipated, it takes a long long time to prove you can be on your own, so by time you prove it all and the paper work gets completed and your records are changed, you will have already been an adult... So basically you wasted all your time and effort...
But, anything can happen. In the end, it could all be great for you.
And if your father is abusing you... You need to seek shelter elsewhere or go to DYFS and they can help you get an apartment and stuff like that. But if the abuse is not physical, there isn't much that DYFS can do for you...
Follow what you feel is right in your heart!
2006-10-31 11:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Salemn Hernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can emancipate yourself from your father if you show cause. My suggestion would be to find a responsible relative, like a grandparent that is willing to take you in. While you are in there care you can be emancipated from your father. During your stay there make sure you do well in school, respect and obey their rules, and try to get a part time job to save up money. I think this will prove that you are a mature individual. When the time comes for you to actually move out on your own, you will have saved up the money from your part time job and will have your finances in order.
I understand your father is being hard on you and doesn't seem to be the father you wish you could have but remember this only YOU can determine your selfworth. Don't let his words or actions determine how you feel about yourself and your life. Don't hurt yourself anymore by beating yourself up over your life or cutting. Be strong, put your plan in motion of finding an alternate location to live, and execute it. You'll be in my thoughts!!!
Best Wishes!!!!!!
2006-10-31 11:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch your mouth, life is so precious that it goes beyond word. Life is hard... and that’s ok... it build character, but what your going though must feel like hell. My dad ran something like that on me. I stuck with it till I got a job. I didn't move out right away... I was 19 when I moved out... but when I thought I traded lead for Gold I found myself leaving the devil I knew for a devil I didn't know. I couldn't afford to move out on my own.. so I got a roommate... and that was the hardest 6 months I’ve lived through I moved again to a friends house... 2 months later moved to Virginia... got myself a job as a Manager but I still don't make enough money to live the way I want.
What I am trying to say... you my not like where you are now.. but once you leave you will lose a head ache and gain another. There is no simple answer to your question... if you want more freedom your gonna have to give up some different time of freedom.
I'll tell you this... In Virginia.. if you can get a job that pays 8.00 and you work at 35 hours a week that’s roughly about 920 a month... you can find an apartment for... 450 (One bedroom) and that leave you with 470 ... then you got gas... that’s about 180 a month... leaving you with 290 then you got light and gas.... that’s 120... leaving you with 170... not counting the stuff you need... like food and such... leaving you with debt maybe... if you can't make sacrifices..
Stick with your dad till you finish High School... if you have to move out to an Aunt or a REALLY GOOD FRIEND and let me tell you the golden rule... any fish three days old.. stinks.. so if you can't hold your weight in the house that your in then you might be kicked out or treated like **** till you move out. so.. your done with high school or you get your GED and you find a job. Be responsible and keep that job... have enough ambition to move up so you can get better pay... roommate with someone... and every year make a promise to yourself that you will ALWAYS DO BETTER.
Take two step forwards ONE step back... take the days one at a time.
Prove to your dad that you can handle yourself... as misguided as he is.. they think they are looking out for you... I don't know too much about what’s going on.. but things could be worse... and its up to you to make them better.
P.S. Go to college... it makes life easier... I'm an upper sophomore now...
2006-10-31 12:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by sageoflight1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to need some professional guidance with this, because I believe you will need to go before a court, and present a serious case for your own d esire to be emancipated. The judge is going to have to make the determination about whether what you say is true, and you will have to show that you are capable of being a fully responsible adult, because once "emancipated" that, for all practical purposes is what you will be, and you will be held accountable for your actions as an adult.
For this to be accomplished you are going to need some sort of legal representation. Get a recommendation to a good lawyer, one who may specialize in this kind of thing.. . or you may find the name of one in your local phone book. You can ask him a simple introductory question at no charge and he may be able to either take you on pro bono (without charge) or else I am sure, direct you to some other person who would be authorized to assist you. Needless to say, anything you say to a lawyer, or other authorized person, will be strictly confidential.
2006-10-31 11:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what state u live in, check that out, ..but i will tell u..it is a long, tedious, and emotionally process...u have to go thru a lot..hearings, a social worker..so its not gonna happen in a month or even 2 or 3.but honestly, something like this, u need to have sum1 to confide in, a counselor, another parent, aunt ,uncle sum1...not anyone on here. you need to have sum1 with you while you go thru this,even after u log off for the day. i hope u get the help u need, but try and seek sum help that can be there with you.there are many places u can go, but really think about this..ur only 16 sweetie, and its a mean , tough, world out there,and once ur on ur own out there you'll see.try to get sum counseling, cuz right now, u need to be finishing up high school and enjoying the years you will never get back...u have the rest of ur life to be on your own and live as an adult.and u do deserve to have a life and live...just maybe not with him...God Bless.
2006-10-31 11:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by aggieD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, your dad needs to stop but in most cases that doesnt help.
if your dad is mentaly abuseing you you should look for a "HELP CENTER" some times also called "HOPE CENTERS" they want to help you. if your dad is hurting you, you should tell the cops and make them believe you. you've made it this far dont give up you only have two more years any ways no matter what it takes live 24 hours at a time.
2006-10-31 11:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by StarWarsFanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true...then talk to your counselor at school. Not people on Yahoo. If you move out at 16, I'm not 100% sure, but I think you'll be considered a runaway and your parents will still have legal custody over you. Again, IF and only IF what you say is true and you're not over reacting to normal discipline and rearing from your parents, then you do need help.
2006-10-31 11:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by RUNINTLKT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends which state you live in.. but here in NJ you can emancipate your parents at the age of 16. and sometimes we as parents dont communicate with our children in a way they we can both understand eachother. its all about listening and what ever you do dont take your life you have so much ahead of you. when are in your twenties you world will change and you dont have that far to go your already 16 and you are gonna have so much fun when your twenties come around you will look back at this moment and be like how could i ever think of taking my life..trust me i know ive been there..now im in my thirties and loving life to the fullest.....good luck i will pray for you
2006-10-31 14:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Gemini P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How close are you to 17, then you can just move out period. You may have to tell your dad he has two choices let you go or you will file abuse charges. Once you are 17 nothing he can do your free to live where you choose, but you may not have time to wait if your being abused move now.
2006-10-31 13:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋