You met a girl and went out on a date with her. She told you that she wanted to be honest right off the bat and told you that she got divorced a few months ago and her husband abused her. She was strong,has put it in the past, and looked at the good things in life. Would it freak you out?
2006-10-31 03:13:35 · 21 answers · asked by freedove06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it would not "freak" me out. Abuse happens and she needs support from a new mate to show that not all males are abusive. She requires his support now and forever and must maintain the strength. If she feels that the strength is weaning, then she must continue to be honest and together seek professional advice for her and them.
2006-10-31 03:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by SeanB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as i have been the girl in this postition before i think that you should decide there and then if you want to take it further. She has opened up to you and let you know something that is not easy to talk about. She is letting you know where she has been and that she got better and wont be doing it again. If you like this girl you should respect her for telling you now instead of having tho go thru a whole bunch of stuff that you would have no idea about and not be able to handle. At least this way she is telling you straight and letting you know what is going on in her head. You should feel grateful that she let you in so soon.
2006-10-31 11:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by bonfireheat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy but my best advise to you is.... Although you want to be honest which is good... too much information at first of course will make the guy not walk but run away... some things have to be said little by little as time goes by... Is not your fault the x abused you, but is not something you want to say on the first date.
2006-10-31 11:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First date? Too much information. Maybe just lead off with the divorce,leave the abuse for the second date.
2006-10-31 11:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by onelonevoice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, no. I would be impressed that she had the inner strength to get out of it and move on. I would be a little nervous that she would think all men are like that. So I would make it clear to her that we aren't by showing her how to treat a woman like a woman and shower her with care and affection, assuming it goes further than a first date.
2006-10-31 11:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by babyboy9car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not me.. I dated a women in the past that was abused. She was a little 'jumpy' at times but with time and positive experiences she managed to understand that not all men are pigs.. Had she not moved to another state we might have been married....
who knows..
2006-10-31 11:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by Marshall Lee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That should not freak you out. As long as she has been honest with you about her past and you can accept the fact that her past is in the past, then move on. don't let that stop you from getting to know her.
2006-10-31 11:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by kingjames1906 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless the guy is a certified maniac who is going to hunt us down with murderous intent, I wouldn't be freakin'. Hey, bad things happen to good people. I'd rather admire and respect the fact that you took care of business and liberated yourself from such abuse, enabling yourself to enjoy life...no worries.
2006-10-31 11:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by seattlego 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. To be able to trust in a stranger so soon after something like that is quite an achievement.
2006-10-31 11:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In not understanding enjoy_seas answer to my question on family law attorneys, I looked at his other answers. Sad and pitiful, and his other answers, answered MY question., it's both. I hope you are not/plan to be a family law attorney....you show your cards WAY too much. Business THAT slow....LOL
Sources: I come from a family of attorneys
2006-10-31 15:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋