I am always the inititator, he is all into it once i start and the sex is passionate and satisfying, but i sometimes want him to come and intice me.... should i back off and give him a chance??? He says he thinks about it and then i beat him to the punch. Maybe i shouldnt worry about who starts it, as long as he wants it.... lol ...
Do men like to be seduced rather then the seducer??
2006-10-31 03:11:26 · 18 answers · asked by coco 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HOW ABOUT TONIGHT I PUT ON MY FRENCH MAID COSTUME AND WAIT FOR HIM TO HIT ON THE MAID??????
2006-10-31 03:24:52 · update #1
I think men love to be seduced. Maybe play hard to get for a while see if that wakes him up.
2006-10-31 03:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I wish my last girlfriend was like you with respect to sex. In a year a few months she initiated sex twice. Well, the only thing I can say is wait until he has to be the one! If he likes sex, which most guys do (haha), then I would only imagine that sooner than later he will jump on you. Maybe seduce you would be a better word. Or, just tell him! It sounds like you might already have done so, but it doesn't sound like he is taking what you said seriously. Tell him that you want to be "seduced" as you put it, and be sure to let him know not because you say so, but hopefully because also HE WANTS TO SEDUCE YOU! This is important!
2006-10-31 03:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by cagewalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it can go both ways really. I like to be seduced, and I like to seduce as well. Usually if i'm not making the move she'll do it and I'll respond as she wants me too.
Maybe try and coax him by being the initiator (get Naked first!) then get him to come and join you. know what I mean? That way you can turn him on so that he'll come and try and seduce you. His sex drive obviously just needs a little ignition.
What it comes down to is tell him to initiate it...unless he forgets all the time...try leaving him notes around the house when you want him to. ie "come find me naked and ready in the bedroom". I know you'd still be the initiator in that case, but maybe he'd come in ready to seduce you.
2006-10-31 03:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is also the belief that ifhe asked you for sex as often as he thought about it, that you'd find it annoying. Men, in general, think about sex quite a lot. He may be embarrassed or nervous to initiate sex because you may think that he is perverted or sex-crazed.
On the flip-side, men often enjoy being seduced as much as a woman does. But in a healthy relationship, it should go both ways for initiating a sexual encounter!
2006-10-31 03:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup - men like to be seduced because it makes them think that they are HOT! Though generally it's the other way around but being a man, I should admit... I LOVE being seduced :)
2006-10-31 03:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by J M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do enjoy being seduced my man dose its part of there foreplay i guess that's what turns them on but try giving him a chance too ..........i think as long as you two are happy with each other and enjoy each other and its satisfying then don't make it in to a big deal just try playing little games and see if he cant hang in there any more and he starts it . i had to wear really short shorts and a tank top to clean the house in front of my man while he was watching TV and boy did that work .......................good luck and have fun while your at it ....................
2006-10-31 03:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by mari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The less you worry about things like this, the better the sex will be. There is NO ONE CORRECT answer...since everybody's different. Seems you've already vocalised this to him---maybe try waiting a little longer so you don't "beat him to the punch" next time....the suspense will make it even BETTER.
2006-10-31 03:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm... I realy like this question because it's extreemly close to me...
i'm very passive when it comes to starting anything...
my girl has directly asked me to be more aggressive, and because she asked there's a few times that i start things... she still does more offten then me, but it seems to get her even more excited when i control things... even after things are started, i'm rather passive... but that's going to be changing some too:)
be direct... you're already having sex with him, so why should a little conversation be a problem??
i've seen a number of problems caused because one member of a relationship tried to manipulate the other into doing something, instead of just asking...
talk to him... be direct... you've already proven that you can be aggressive, you it in this, and it might just prove to have been worth it...
2006-10-31 03:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try flirting a little...not enough to start off but just enough to give him a hint of what you would like. If he doesn't take up the chance well leave him hanging. I've done the same but with my gf :-)
2006-10-31 03:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Communicologue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ofcouse they do, actually I think this is a very common complaint of most men. They always have to be the one to initiate, so your man is probably feeling pretty lucky. Good for you, God bless
2006-10-31 03:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋