My girlfriend is faithful to me and we see eachother all the time. In fact, we live together. Prior to meeting me online at Yahoo! personals, she was seeing this guy who was her friend's boyfriend and her friend lives in another country and was not here at the time this happened. My girlfriend, most likely, was seeing him while we were writing back and forth initially on-line. In fact, I found several e-mails dated a week before we started seeing eachother that were written the morning after they had sex. He was still in her bed when she wrote them. I happened upon these e-mails on accident but they still burn me up. I feel like I want to tell her that I know but I don't want to piss her off to the point that she dumps me. She had told me about hooking up with him and she also told me that she was in a longterm relationship months prior. Although I knew she had been with other people, for me, it is just weird to think about her with someone else and of the timing of it all.
2006-10-31 03:07:14 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I should tell you that I know she is being faithful and that she stopped seeing this guy before we started actually dating because I am always with her. She also told me that she has no feelings for him and that she actually doesn't like him. She actually cut off communication with him before our initial first date. I guess he was supposed to be a fling but it still pisses me off. She tells me that I'm the only one of the three guys that she has been with that was able to get her to "climax". She feels like I'm the only one who has ever "made love" to her. Even with all of that, I still get burned up when I think about it. Before we "connected" I was a virgin.
2006-10-31 03:11:50 · update #1
You just have to grit your teeth and bear with it, if she is worth it to you. It says in the bible, by increasing knowledge you increase sorrow. That is why, my ex told me up front that she hooked up with a couple guys and bad things happened, and it was very hard for me to get over that jealousy. But, you trust and remain faithful until she gives you a reason and proof that she is unfaithful to you.
2006-10-31 03:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her and let her *** loose! I'm sorry to tell you, but that chick is triflin'(disgusting)! At the same time it seems you want to be with her so you are accepting all of her baggage and flaws because if she told you she hooked up and was in a longterm relationship months prior. Do you really believe that she is over that person? Do you really think she will be faithful to you?
2006-10-31 11:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell her.So she knows she can't pull the wool over your eyes.She was the one who made the mistake not you.
If she dumps you find someone else.It was not meant to be.Wouldn't you want someone who loves you just as much as you love her.
You do not want to start a family some day with someone who does care about you.Think about what is right for you.Who else is going look out for you in this situation?
Best Wishes.
2006-10-31 11:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what it is and how you found out!
All this happened BEFORE you got together and essentially is none of your business.
When you buy a used car, you don't expect the new car smell.
If you are going to obsess over things like that, she would be better off with someone else!
Also, looking at her past emails, what kind of cretin does that?
2006-10-31 11:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is faithful to you and your are happy in your relationship then I would let it go. It was before you started seeing each other so there isn't a lot you can say about it. Why start a fight over something you can't change now. I would just let it go and enjoy your relationship.
2006-10-31 11:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you snooped in her computer and found something from before you came along or at least before you were serious and now you are mad at her? What a bunch of crapola!!!! Really!!! Were you a virgin when you first slept with her? If not then get off your high horse and realize she was alive before she met you. Get over it and dont tell her because then she will be angry you snooped where you didnt belong.
2006-10-31 11:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not say anything. She has already told you anyway. Just stay quiet because it might upset her. She was wrong in one way by doing this behind her friends back but if you bring it up it might just make her feel terrible which I think that she might. Try to forget about it.
2006-10-31 11:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say she is faithful to you,thats good,why not let the past behind?she is yours now and thats what matters.if it bugs you,you can ask her but dont accuse her or make her feel bad.stop putting your finger inside the anus coz you will surley pick some ****.
2006-10-31 11:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by helpmegetaname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck with this girl, anyone that would sleep with their friends boyfriend while she is away has no morals. If anything she should have been looking out for her friend.
2006-10-31 11:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go and track her down and say, "I know you cheated with your friends boyfriend." but don't make it a secret. Be casual. If it does come up, act as if she gave them to you and forgot. Don't lie to her thouhg. She'll be able to tell, and she will hate you for it.
2006-10-31 11:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋