Ive had this friend 4 a few years and weve always had a strong attraction between us. @ the end of last skool year he asked me if I wanted 2 be bf&gf. It was right before the summer so we just became friends w/ ben. & we always had our fun when no one looked yet it never got sexual. When this school year started he wanted to know if I wanted to be bf&gf and I said no knowing he doesnt want that kind of relationship. A few weeks later he started dating a freshman who looks lik a mut of a puppy. I found this strange because at the time we are still friends w/ ben. and I kno we have not lost that attraction. I havent taken up on the title of our relationship since I found out they were dating, despite how much I want to. His girlfriend and I are becoming close yet I shall not let him know so there is no discomfort between the guy & me. Lately he has been making hints that he wants to take up on the title of our relationship. He has been flirting stronger then ever and I want to have my fun but his girlfriend & I are friends yet I probably shouldn't be because she is to bossy for him and never lets him have fun so I don't support their relationship 4 more then 1 reason. What do I do?
2006-10-31 02:59:51 · 3 answers · asked by E'Shell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't act frivolously with your body number one. Tell him first that if he wants the fringe benefits as you put it, he has to break it off with his girlfriend, or at least tell her what he wants with you and you never know she may or may not be okay with it, but if he doesn't tell her or breakup with her you will at least tell her what's up.
Don't lie, cheat and betray, or what goes around comes around. Put yourself in her shoes regardless if you feel they ain't right for one another or she is too bossy. Be a honest, trustworthy good person.
And have all the benefits you want, and just maybe you will change your mind and want to be his girl. It sounds like it to me sweetie.
Best of Luck, & I really hope you take even a little bit of my advice about this issue. Betray and betrayed one day.
2006-10-31 03:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as friends with benefits.. that is just something epople call it to not make it sound as bad as what it really is. YOu either are together or not.. the problem here is not that he has a girl or that you are her friend the problem is that you dont want to see what exactly you and him got going on... Don't put your self in a situation that in the end you are not gonna like. You are his girl on the side,, that's it.. nothing more.. he does not recognize you as his girl.. and weather you want to see it or not.. you are basically less than his girl and you dont really know what goes on in their relationship.. you dont know what goes on behind closed doors.. to me.. you either tell him that you want to be his girl or you end it right there...
2006-10-31 11:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is using you. And what you are both doing to the poor girl is wrong. Leave this situation immediately!
2006-10-31 11:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋