Help with wording, I don't know how to say it nicely?

Question

I am getting married April of next year. We are going to Vegas with a small grup of people and then having a reception in our town when we return. I have the wording for the invitations themselves I just don't know how to word that we are not registering at any stores. We live with my fiance's sick grandmother, taking care of her and helping her around the house. We don't have a place to store gifts, and she has the house packed with all her stuff. What I need is wording saying we are wishing for money so we can put it in savings for a later use...maybe a honeymoon or downpayment for a house. We don't want to offend by asking for money but do not have the space or need for gifts that we can't use. Help! any suggestions will help

Answer 1

Merely state in the invitation "no household items are needed, thank you". Any way you put it, it is not appropriate to suggest openly that you prefer money.

Answer 2

DO NOT mention gifts IN ANY WAY in your invitations. That would be very rude, regardless of how you phrased it.

It is also RUDE to register or ask for gift cards, and RUDE to register for a honeymoon.

If you do not want to register, simply don't. No announcement regarding that fact is necessary.

A polite bride dose not volutneer the info about her gift preferences. Not in the invitation, not in a mass email, not on a website.

If people *directly* ask you what things you might like as gifts, then you may say you are saving up for a house downpayment, but you could also use ______ (insert items here, preferably something easily stored like towels and linens). That gives the people a choice, because some will insist on giving a physical gift while some will choose to give money-- it is the gift giver's decision, NOT yours.

Regardless of what gifts you receive, you should be thankful, gracious, and send thank you notes immediately, not complain about your lack of storage space.

Answer 3

There is not a way to say it nicely, and it will offend if you ask for money. That is just not done. If you do not want gifts, say so. Period. People are not obligated to bring gifts to weddings, they do because they want to - to share something they have chosen with a newly married couple.
So, don't say you aren't registering anywhere, and don't ask for money or gift cards or a honeymoon fund or whatever. It is plain rude.

Answer 4

You can get a little Wishing Well(I got mine thru oriental tradings)and just put No gifts please-(wishing well provided for couple) I have also been to weddings that have a money tree.They put "money tree at reception to help with couples journey in life".Have it sitting near where the couple are greeting the guest.Just be bold and put money would be appreciated, instead of gifts.We done very well with our wishing well.Congratulations.

Answer 5

Asking for money always sounds tacky no matter what your reason. There is no nice way to ask, I'm sorry. However, you could simply not register, and say nothing and end up with some cash. That is my suggestion. Then once you get your own home, have a housewarming party and register to receive gifts.

Answer 6

I have to say, I am impressed that you aren't coming right out and asking for money - most brides don't realize that that is considered rude. Normally, you don't put your registeries on a wedding or reception invitation either because a wedding/reception invitation does not imply that a gift is required. (A bridal shower invitation does, and so putting "presentation preferred" on a bridal invitation is acceptable)/

The best option for you is to leave gifts completely off the invitation. Instead, ask your family and close friends to pass the word along that cash gifts would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 7

Humm we sort of had the same problem. But we explained to everyone that we were combining two households and really didn't need anything else but if you are looking for something to put with the invitation....
I don't think there is a way you can say you just want money. What I did was just tell everyone we don't need anything for the house and left it up to them what to do.. Sorry not much help

Answer 8

You really don't have a problem at all. Information about registering for gifts does not belong on an invitation, so there's nothing to word nicely. Simply leave the information off.

Answer 9

Since your not supposed to put where you regester in the invitation anyway your fine.... just let it be word of mouth. If you want money let your parents and family and friends talk about it amoungst themselves. To be honest people are going to get whatever they want anyway. Even if you were to put MONEY TREE on the invitation, people are still going to give you a gift if they want to. I think you should just take what you get, and leave the rest to fate. Its tacky to ask for money. If your family and friends know you at all they will know to give money, knowing your situation. You don't need to advertise that you want money, its not cool.

Answer 10

I don't know what today's ettiquette on this issue is......but I still think that asking for money is really, really, tacky!

What we did was ask for gift certificates (now they call them gift cards) at paticular stores, so when you do move and get your own house, you can fill it with "gifts" from your wedding.

I was kinda in the same boat you were in, but we didnt ask for money. We asked for gift cards, so that when the time came for us to buy our first house, we could buy stuff that would have been listed on a bridal registery. Then, after we did buy a house, I sent a short note thanking the person we got the gift card from and telling them exactly what we bought.

good luck!

Answer 11

Since space is limited in their home and because of their current living situation, in lieu of gifts the happy couple has established an account at (Bank Name Acct #) or there will be a gift box at the reception. The make a small box wrapped in gift paper with a slit in the top for sliding in envelopes and cards. Everyone who knows you will understand the situation cause they will know your living arrangements. Also if you do get gifts then you can always return them.