to stop cleaning my house when she comes over to babysit. I can never find stuff and things are not properly cleaned. I know she means well but I find it makes things more difficult for me.
2006-10-31 02:55:58 · 12 answers · asked by nangari 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I try to clean up as best I can before I go out so she doesn't feel as though she needs to. When I say to people, "Don't worry about cleaning/tidying - I actually get pleasure out of doing it" they just ignore the comment.
2006-10-31 03:05:03 · update #1
Tell your friend that she's there only for babysitting and not housecleaning. Ask her if she is uncomfortable with the tidiness of your home. Let her know in a nice way that her cleaning causes you more confusion than help, I'm sure she'll understand and respect your wishes.
2006-10-31 05:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by concerned 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There a re some people who have this obscessive, compulsive "cleaning thing". hahaha we all have a tiny bit of the O.C. quirk in our system. Mine is the compulsion to straigten people's crooked wall hangings, lol.
I would be personally very irritated, though, if, no matter how good of a friend, somebody who was invited to my home started messing with my stuff. I'd take that person aside and say. "Hon, look, I know you mean well, but I'm asking ya, please, would you grit your teeth and squinch your eyes, and resist the temptation to be cleaning my dadgam house when you're here. YOU concentrate on what you are here TO do, and let me take care of my own "domestic engineering". Keep it light, you know, be "warm" about it. B ut with a tone of voice that should be clear to anybody with half a brain, that you do mean it.
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2006-10-31 11:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her, that you appreciate the fact that she helps you to clean, but you'd rather she watches over your son or daughter and try to focus on your childrend and not a the cleaning.
You didn't ask some light cleaning on your ad did you?
And just tell her that when she cleans, you can't find things around the house.
2006-10-31 11:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sabine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell her. I have a friend who is a real slob and whenever anyone goes to her house the first impulse is to clean no matter if you would do so in your own home. lol.
My friend has made it very clear in no uncertain terms that NO ONE is to touch anything in her home. She has some sort of strange system that somehow in all of that chaos she know just where everything is. So I just .. I was going to say "close my eyes".. but if I do that I will not get out alive. I just ignore what it around me. And some places that are to dangerous to enter I stay out of. ;-)
2006-10-31 12:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that she really doesn't have to clean your house. She is just there to babysit. Tell you know that that is busy enough, she doesn't have to go to that trouble. Or just tell her that you can't ever find things after she "cleans". That you like the way you put things already.
2006-10-31 11:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by knowsbetter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've found that the best guise for snooping in other peoples houses, is to clean up after and put things in the wrong place, but in plain sight, it takes their mind off the fact that I went through their stuff
2006-10-31 11:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could ask her to take your kid(s) somewhere - that way she'll be out of the house. Or give her activities to do with your
kid(s) while she's there and that way she'll be to busy to clean up.
2006-10-31 14:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clean your house before she comes over and then maybe she won't feel like she has to or is sitting in your filth
2006-10-31 10:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she does not have worry about cleaning the house that u would whether do that yourself
2006-10-31 12:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the idea is not wrong, how about you show her how to do it the right way (the way you want). And if she is your friend, you should tell her face to face.
Peace
2006-10-31 10:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Zolex1981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋