What is the point to all that waste of money???
Is there really a need to invite 1000 guests???
Is there a need for a horse drawn carriage???
Then the cost of the venue...
When I got wed, it cost a £1000 and I thought that was expensive... Granted we managed to cut a few corners...
2006-10-31 02:54:33 · 15 answers · asked by Forlorn Hope 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
YOU SHOUL HAVE JUST RUN AWAY THATS WHAT WE DID HAPPY AS EVER !!
2006-10-31 02:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ lou lou ♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wedding industry (magazines, bridal shops, etc) have brainwashed brides into believing that if they don't go over the top expensive and lavish, which for 90% of the population means going into debt, and trying to outdo the Joneses, that their wedding will be a failure. For that reason, brides are not aware that they should shop around for a better deal. The wedding industry says they must have certain items or else. The truth of the matter is that if you look outside the box and avoid stuff labeled 'wedding' altogether then you don't pay near as much and you get much better quality.
The only things that are required are a marriage license, a minister, your fiance, and 2 witnesses. The rest is details and totally optional.
Best thing to do is sit down with your fiance and make 3 lists. One list is must haves, the other is things that you feel are nice to have but not required, the last is of things that you don't want or you have no use for. Anything on the 3rd list, go ahead and skip. Compare the first two lists to what you can realistically afford and go from there.
2006-10-31 10:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is no need to have a large lavish wedding, but some people think that there is due to society. They see these large lavish wedding that famous people have and want the same thing regardless if they can afford it or not, alot of time they can go into debt over it.
Also the couple may both have alot of family, and friends so the guest list could be in thousands.
Is there really a need to have a large lavish wedding, probably not. They just want it to be very romantic and special so they are willing to have the horse deawn carriage, the dress that cost $5,000. Just so they can fullfill there dreams and fanatsies of what they think a wedding should be like.
I on the other hand perfer small intimate weddings, hell I don't even feel the need to get married. I feel just as committed to my partner regardless if there is a piece of paper invovled.
2006-10-31 03:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by E_E 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean "marriages" - or "weddings"? Weddings can be expensive, yes, but there's no law that states it should be so. Why did YOU have a $2,000 wedding? Why didn't you have a $300 one? If you can answer this question, perhaps you will gain a little bit of insight into why people have big weddings. Practically speaking, there's no reason a wedding should be anything other than going to the justice of peace and signing the paperwork with two witnesses. Everything else is extra. Whatever reasons you had for adding this $2,000 "extra" - these same reasons probably apply for adding a $5,000 or $10,000 "extra", just on the bigger scale. My wedding cost us probably no more than $500-$600 (including the bride's and groom's outfits), we had a lot of people, and we had a lot of fun - but it was completely informal and untraditional. This is how we chose to do it. I think, it simply comes down to the personal priorities of the couple. For some people it is more important to get it done and over with, for others to have it as "traditional" as possible, yet for others it's an occasion to just have fun with it. If people are willing to spend more on something that is very important to them - more power to them.
2006-10-31 04:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
In my opinion it's really stupid to spend a lot of money on one day.
You invite people who mean something to the two of you not the guy you say hi too at the grocery store.
A wedding isn't supposed to be a circus....it's supposed to be joining a man and a woman and hopefully their families together.
I think it's much smarter to have a nice honeymoon and put that money away for a nice down payment on your first home.
2006-10-31 03:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i soooo totally agree with you. when..and hopefully i get married, i want a really really small wedding...maybe no more than 10-20 people. because you think you spend all this money on a wedding not just because you need it, but it's more cause you want to show off to people and want them to believe that you had the most beautiful wedding in the world. i say save all that crap and spend the money on your future purposes as a wedded couple.
2006-10-31 03:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. However...my Dad saved a long time for my wedding becuase he wanted it to be big and beautiful. We even asked him if we could have a very small very inexpensive wedding and he said no! He saved that money for a reason and thats what he wanted to spend it on! It was great though...everyone in both of our families came and had a blast...
2006-10-31 03:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, a marriage shouldn't cost much - just a little for the paperwork... it's the wedding that can get out of hand! Extravagance isn't a requirement for marriage.
2006-10-31 04:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by rubikscube 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The cost is prohibitive so you think twice about getting divorced LOL!!!!
Seriously, it's only as expensive as you're willing to let it be.
2006-10-31 02:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because people are gullible and the wedding industry's marketnig is pervasive.
2006-10-31 06:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you can bring together relatives who haven't spoken since the old queen died then it is worth it. just to watch them fight, in some cases!
2006-10-31 03:09:26 · answer #11 · answered by XT rider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋