There's a man in my building who is quite attentive to me, seems to have excuses to be in the same area as me, will email me to say goodnight, steals looks when he thinks I'm not looking, always smiles, etc. I'm not sure if he is this nice because of the nature of his work, or what. I am getting vibes from him but am wondering if it's just my imagination. He isn't married but I know he is seeing someone, and I am a decade younger than him or so. Is there a chance here... or should I just brush this all off?
I have a friend that says things would change if he knew I would be interested in something with him, but I'm not so sure.
any advice?
2006-10-31 02:48:19 · 9 answers · asked by jami p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well... i am a big fan of not mixing relationships with work...
But if you really think there is something there, you need to think about of the result of your actions....If anything bad happened would it affect your work? Your realtionships with other employees?
Just depends on what you feel. Do what you think is right.
Good luck and Best wishes
2006-10-31 02:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely letting you know he's interested. Why else would he spend so much time paying attention to you (unless maybe you work together closely)? The problem is sending mixed signals if he's already seeing someone. Let's put aside the fact you both work together (as that's whole different set of complications).
How do you know he's seeing someone else? You're positive? Is it someone else you both work with? If so, stay away from that as nothing good will come of it. If not, then ask him about the person he's seeing. Observe his reaction. This will tell you much.
Your friend is prolly right though. Things would change if he knew you were interested. So, why not let him know you are interested and see what happens?
2006-10-31 11:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Prince of Pomp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have a conversation with this man, in a public place, maybe for coffee etc. There is nothing wrong with men who are older than you my husband is 12 years older than me and we have a wonderful relationship. My parents are 16 years apart, so if the age thing is a problem, maybe you should be adult about it ask him to meet you somewhere and find out if there is a spark of some kind, if not you might make yourself a good friend.
But if this man is creepy after your public outing, and is still trying to get your attention, I would suggest a restraining order. First though you should get to know him a Little better before passing judgement.
2006-10-31 10:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by bubba1pup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brush it all off,since he's seeing someone else. He might just want a little ruffling in the hay with this little innocent girl and after that, it's over while you will be on the other side hurt and confused.
2006-10-31 10:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just flirting and sounding you out at the moment If he wants to ask you out he will; there's no need for you to do anything, especially if you think he already has a girlfriend. The age thing is not an issue.
2006-10-31 10:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is a wierdo stalker type. call the cops girl
2006-10-31 10:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give a try if you got the thoughts .. you never know what clicks perfect
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2006-10-31 10:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try winking at him,,batting ur eyes
2006-10-31 10:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-31 10:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋